Sex / Pornography Addiction Support Group
Sexual addiction, also sometimes called sexual compulsion, is a form of psychological addiction to sexual intercourse and other sexual behavior.
I have noticed that There are hard times of the day or night when I have noticed my susceptability to give in to thoughts of temptation and or have become aroused.
Some are due to definite fatigue.
Others are due to unitentional exposure.
I've noticed that after eating too much at times that wieghs me down and the possibility to become lustful is definitely a factor.
and still yet there are times that I wake up at night or early morning to tired to get out of bed and use the bathroom that I become or already am aroused due to what I beleive they call the "Cold bladder affect"
So in these times where urges and arousal may occur sometimes I have to suffer through it such as when I am weighed down tired yet aroused and thinking about just giving up or maybe have even have been lost or swayed from the context of what all I beleieved at one point was the important thing to do even I know that the pain or the consequences will speak to me later if I should act out at the moment.
i've tried to keep a "this to shall pass" type of attitude which goes along with hard times and issues I've learned to deal with when my spirit is feeling low. Acknowledging or remebering the mantra...TO BEAR THE DISCOMFORT AND THE COMFORT WILL COME. Or try and reajust or breakdown what is bothering me to NOTICE THE TRIGGER and do something to fix it, stop it, learn to be proactive about dealing with it.
Some are due to definite fatigue.
Others are due to unitentional exposure.
I've noticed that after eating too much at times that wieghs me down and the possibility to become lustful is definitely a factor.
and still yet there are times that I wake up at night or early morning to tired to get out of bed and use the bathroom that I become or already am aroused due to what I beleive they call the "Cold bladder affect"
So in these times where urges and arousal may occur sometimes I have to suffer through it such as when I am weighed down tired yet aroused and thinking about just giving up or maybe have even have been lost or swayed from the context of what all I beleieved at one point was the important thing to do even I know that the pain or the consequences will speak to me later if I should act out at the moment.
i've tried to keep a "this to shall pass" type of attitude which goes along with hard times and issues I've learned to deal with when my spirit is feeling low. Acknowledging or remebering the mantra...TO BEAR THE DISCOMFORT AND THE COMFORT WILL COME. Or try and reajust or breakdown what is bothering me to NOTICE THE TRIGGER and do something to fix it, stop it, learn to be proactive about dealing with it.
For me a few things work: 1)ID and then avoid triggers; 2)if a lust hit occurs, I say the serenity prayer until it passes; 3) if I can't shake it I call someone or more than one person until I find someone to talk; 4) I'll read something from the SA literature; 5) go outside to a public place where I know I can't act out until it passes.
Knowing triggers is essential. Once you know them try not to focus too much attention to them. Try instead to remove yourself from them as much as possible. I pray when I am unable to get out of a situation that is causing my discomfort. Have a written plan to remind you of what to do when temptation strikes.
Like borntorun said it does get easier the longer you abstain.
notice it stay away from it, pray, call some one and admit it, read from recovery oriented literature, go out to a public place, watch out when you are hungry, angry, lonely or tired, Identify your triggers and have a plan to deal with them, deal with resolving anger, observe how you react to triggers as far as giving a second thought to something. Kind of like the bird that lands on your head and brushing it off.
Has anyone had any sucess with the conventional cold shower as a proactive measure cause man I dread that idea sometimes or maybe a partial one would do that is directed to the "right area" lets say.
What about exercise like a walk in the park or hike up a mountain trail in the woods because that seems to get me focused on my body and life and other capacities to have, enjoy, maintain as opposed to sex or sexual compulsion. It seems to work for me to some capacity or extent.