Sex / Pornography Addiction Support Group

Sexual addiction, also sometimes called sexual compulsion, is a form of psychological addiction to sexual intercourse and other sexual behavior.

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Tru78
Tru78

This addiction started ever since I was 12 years old. I remember the first time when I saw it I watched one of my brothers videos I knew it was wrong but I got very aroused by it. Then that's when it started anytime my brother bought a porn video I would always watch it without him knowing. Fast forward As I Grew Older I found myself in a constant battle almost everyday trying not to search for porn to pleasure myself. I tried 2 get rid of the triggers that always used to set me off but that didn't work. I also tried setting up a web browser that would stop me from searching for that type of contents that ended up not working either. However there was one month that I did not do it at all. I was very proud of myself but once again one of the triggers got me and the cycle started all over again. Now I am wasting money on cam girls. This is a little bit different to what I watch but I do this and I also watch porn to. When I do the cam girl website I feel as if I have the control to tell the girl what I would like done. However this is something that is getting to be very disgusting and expensive. Not to mention I still do look at porn. Every single time I am done I am disgusted with myself I am upset with myself I feel like there's something wrong with me. I am currently married with Children and I just feel like I'm a failure to my family as well as to myself I feel like I'm just continuing to fill them with this terrible disgusting Secret. Please help I want to be normal I want to be a good father and a good husband but this secret that I have is this making me look like the worst person in the world

17408
17408
I never did the cam girl thing but I do watch a lot of porn and beat off. I have a healthy sex life with my marriage but it never seems to be enough. How long did it take you to realize it was a problem? I think I am there but I still like it.
Tru78
Tru78
Honestly it took me like a few years to realize i have a problem. This is bc i would stop for awhile but then a trigger would cause me to relapse. I would blame other factors instead of myself as well. I am there too...healthy sex life with marriage but its like idk always seem to need more.
meghini7
meghini7
It’s great that you recognize it’s not a healthy or helpful thing for you. I know it seems like the scariest thing to do, but have you thought about maybe talking to your wife about it? Truly, the worst thing you can do is keep things in the dark, this just does even worse things to your mental health. Confessing hard things means you’re bringing darkness into light. Have you thought about or sought out counseling? Also, have you been able to identify what triggers your addiction? There’s always a why when we have an addiction.
17408
17408
I am having trouble identifying my triggers. It seems like I am already getting started before I realize it. Meghini7 is right about discussing it with the wife. It is a hard thing to do but has to be done.
Tru78
Tru78
@Meghini7. I have thought about this but my wife is the extremely jealous type. One time she got so mad at me and didnt talk to me for months because she accused me of flirting with a girl at work(i wasnt and i wasnt even interested in her). I feel telling her this will trigger an automatic divorce. I want to tell her but idk how without her wanting to divorce me. I have also identified the triggers. Its usually seeing women on t.v. dressed revealing or how they look. Everytime i see this i change the channel but sometimes this doesnt always work and i find myself back on my laptop.
17408
17408
How would your wife react if she caught you masturbating? If this would also cause an issue with her it may be best to be up front and honest with her. I guess I have that same trigger. If a woman with big breasts is on tv it starts my juices flowing. I didn’t even realize until now.
Tru78
Tru78
@17408 if she caught me it depends...if she catches doing it to a video or picture of her its ok...but to porn or cam girls...would be a HUGE problem. Yeaa thats my issue wen i see it i try to change the channel but sometimes the image stays in my head.
17408
17408
I agree it is tough to shake the image. They are everywhere. How would your wife respond if you initiated sex with her when these arousals happen? It could be one of those - it doesn’t matter where you get your appetite as long as you come home for dinner - moments.