Welcome aboard needhelp112!
For me, joining this site was a large step in the right direction. I had to come to terms with the fact that I needed help and then took it from there. Expressing the problem to others and getting their insight and feedback was incredibly helpful. There were many conversation shared that helped me understand more about myself and my own addiction to sex and porn. I think understanding and knowledge are keys to getting things under control. The more you can make sense of the addiction, the easier it is to look at and the less insurmountable recovery becomes. Also, I opened up to my brother about it, and after still being accepted by him, I knew that I had someone in my corner. He's been there ever since and helps me stay straight. Remember to love yourself and to be patient with your recovery process. It's very easy to get flustered and angry with ourselves when we fail even the simplest goals; don't. Accept it and move on. We're stronger than the addictions, and it's important to remember that we are, in the end, the master of our own minds and bodies. In my experience, studying the topic and coming to understanding it better is a great way to start. I hope something in that helps!
Love yourself, be kind and patient with yourself, and give yourself an understanding hand. Keep from getting negative with yourself and try to keep energy neutral. The more negative you throw at the addiction, the worse it will become. You're not alone. Welcome to the group.
Best of wishes,
-Pottsy

I don’t know I’m trying. But I kept fucking up and I think I’ve lost my girlfriends trust completely now, I’ve hurt her so many times with and I’ve seen how sad and angry it made her and I kept going back to it and I think it might be too late to salvage it. I know you said stay away from negative emotions but at the moment I’m so pissed off with myself. I don’t know why I need to be this scared of loosing her in order to finally do something about it , I feel so selfish I don’t know what to do , I’m not sure if there’s anything I can do .

I am new on this web and thank God for your contribution in changing people's lives. Actually i am struggling with the same problem since 2012, i don't know how to quit porn. Currently i am having my master studies but the porn addiction became more and more hard on me on the level that i can't follow my studies any more. In my mind there is always pictures of females i saw when watching and i can't study i just go to watch again. what can i do?

I agree porn is sort of selfish but I have also learned that fear of losing a spouse or fear of anything will actually bring it about. I know you care about your girlfriend and probably love her more than anything in this world but if you truly love her you are going to want what is best for her whether she is in your life or not and that my friend takes the fear away and helps you face it together. It’s a hard pill to swallow but I am there with you!! Best of luck!!

Involve the people you love and help them you hold you accountable. The motivation to stop watching porn comes from what you believe it does to you, and find another habit that is healthy and stops you from watching it. God bless.