Sex / Pornography Addiction Support Group
Sexual addiction, also sometimes called sexual compulsion, is a form of psychological addiction to sexual intercourse and other sexual behavior.
My fiance of 5 years cheated on me then left me for another man. I cherished her and by her own word treated her like a princess. She is beautiful kind and was completly devoted to me. We had a nice house with 2 dogs and 2 cats and were ready to grow our family. I pushed her into the arms of another man because i could not stop watching porn. She told me it would be the thing that ruined our relationship and she was right. We had sex all of the time and it was great but i still found myself watching porn at work or in the basement. Anywhere i could get away with it really. It ruined her confidence. We couldnt watch a tv show without her getting jealouse. I think ive pushed her to far away to get back but i dont want to be alone forever. Just me and porn. What i did to her is tearing me apart. Any advise on how to stop would be great. Im trying to quit cold turkey right now but its only day 5 and the urge is back.
thank you for sharing.
You must:
* learn why you need porn.
* know how you feel before you warn porn.
* understand what porn is doing for you and why.
Start a daily journal, i suggest you read the bible every time you want porn, if you read just a little bit of it, before porn then it will help you kick the addiction.
Before you can enter into a healthy relationship, you have to be healthy first. You have to love yourself, trust yourself, treat yourself with respect.
learn about your addiction and find accountability partners. Find a local SA group and join it.
Remember you do have to win over the addiction tomorrow, next week, next year, but just for today. Stay present and learn your triggers.
I pray you are safe and healthy.
It’s been 15 days for me and it is a struggle. I had the urge so bad last night, but I distracted myself and eventually fell asleep. You’ve got determination and strength in you to fight this addiction.
done so ask her to forgive you not because you want to reconcile but because you need to move on and also forgive yourself. After that, then you can start tackling the porn addiction. It might even be more advantageous to be alone while you do that.
Quitting cold turkey seldom works because the task seems so daunting that one ends up giving up soon after. However, if you could do it that’d be great but judging by what you said about the urge coming back it seems unlikely. Others have said it, this has to be taken one day at a time. But you really need to drop the guilt.