Sex / Pornography Addiction Support Group

Sexual addiction, also sometimes called sexual compulsion, is a form of psychological addiction to sexual intercourse and other sexual behavior.

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geo70
geo70

I haven't been to a meeting in weeks.


I have been watching porn and masturbating.


I really want to lay out a bunch of really neat excuses and introspection but that is useless banter. 


I was sober for almost a month and a half, was working on my fourth step and just got uncomfortable. Got too good too soon, overwhelmed that I was actually becoming  a human again and my addict/lower power hit me with both barrels. Don't know but being numb the last few weeks has been uncomfortable.

Alisa.Coaches
Alisa.Coaches
Sometimes we can be addicted to the actual addicted "space." When you start coming out of that space, you can feel discombobulated. It is an overwhelming and confusing space to be in. Try embracing the fact that progress is pretty damn uncomfortable sometimes.

Try to understand that sometimes you will need to process actually coming out of the addictive space, just as much as you process the thoughts, feelings, and emotions connected to stopping unhealthy patterns and starting new ones.

In other words, you have to ADJUST TO THE NEW SPACE that you are creating for yourself when you develop new patterns. It is uncomfortable in the beginning, and this part of the recovery process can be highly overlooked.
Skyler1
Skyler1
I am going to start going to ala- non meetings ( even though for for spouses porn addiction). I have to do something. There are no groups for wives of addicts, only for the addict. Yet, I'm the one suffering f.....
Scaredkitty
Scaredkitty
Skyler1 - there is S-anon for partners of sexaholics. They have a web site that can help you find meetings...sanon.org
Chocol8
Chocol8
To get to step 4 in almost a month and a half is way too fast in my mind. No wonder you feel like this.

The first 6 weeks absenance is a period of withdrawl. An addict is barely ready to start step 1 at that stage. Have you a Sponsor? I would be thinking about changing your Sponsor because this is not working the programme for your good.

The first 3 Steps need enough time to be really gone through. Unless these are right and working and you have established a daily programme, then the rest of the programme will fall flat on its face.

Which fellowship is it?