Welcome! First I must say, never give up. You're strong enough to beat this.
There were so many times after
over a year of promising myself that I would quit and I hadn't yet that made me want to throw in the towel. My usage had gotten very out of control. It was turning into at Least two or three hours every day or every other day. I also used to masturbste an extremely excessive amount. That is something, too, that I had been trying for years to cut back on. One of the things that has helped me a lot is really digging into the issue and trying to understand it. What is porn doing for you? What space is it filling? Understand what triggers the need for it and why was very important.
In answering the hard questions and being able to openly and safely discuss things, I am now over a month free of porn.
Personally, though we all have different methods of taking porn out of our lives, quitting cold turkey has worked for me, but only thanks to the support of others. Adding filters and barriers to limit access to those kinds of websites has also seemed to help others. Just keep your head up and stay patient with yourself. Recovery is a personal thing, and there's no way to tell what can work; but assuredly, something will.
Thank you for your strength and courage to be willing to reach out.

Thank you so much for the encouragement! Congrats on your month of extremely hard work! I think I still have a lot to understand about what porn does for me but I think the main thing is it allows me an escape from everyday stresses. Of course, this "escape" lasts only as long as I'm using, and then I feel the weight of the stress come crashing back down on me immediately after. But somehow I convince myself every time that "this time, the good, pleasurable feelings will last, and I won't even need to tell my wife..." Yeah, right!

Anyway, thank you again for the kind words and support! We can do this!

Of course! Any time. You can also PM me if you'd like.

Thank you! It has been very difficult, and some days are worse than others, but it's helped me keep in mind how guilty I would feel after using, and how much I would be letting those down that have gotten me this far. Not to mention myself.

Porn was an escape for me, too. Whether from major stressors or mild agitation. Anything negative would drive me to it, but I would only feel worse after. I have found that reaching out to others and talking about things has really helped dull the urges. If I do get the urge, I'll reach out, even if it's something as simple as asking how someone is doing. I hope you are well!
Oh, after thought: Never listen to the little voice that says "I'll start tomorrow" and "I've made it this far, I think it's fair to get a little treat/reward".
Every land mark I've hit has caused that reaction in my mind. The mind will try and keep bargaining, my best advice is to be careful of that.

I also used porn during hard times. If i was stressed or overwhelmed. But it got to a point i was doing it for something to do. I always felt so empty afterwards. What really helped me was coming to terms with it. I understood that i was accomplishing nothing by turning to it. Like a drug. Taking that hit but it's never enough. I personally have an app on my phone that my wife controls lol. It prevents me from accessing porn pages as my phone was my access point too. It's easier when you have to be accountable to someone (at least for me it is) and like pottsy, having people you can rely on it vent to about the issue makes a huge difference. Don't give up and done beat yourself up of you fail. We all make mistakes. It's how you handle the aftermath that matters

Thanks scaredandafraid! What app do you and your wife use? We have tried using apps before, but it got to be really difficult for her to be my accountability partner, so we have moved away from it. But I'm always open to trying new tactics!

The one we use is called soaring safe. It's mainly geared for parents to useon thier teens phones. Basically if she chooses to block adult content if I try to access it it just shows up that it's not allowed. It's easy to bypass so you have to have some willpower too. You can't expect your wife to do all the work for you. You have to fight the urges.

I guess to put it straight forward and out there, what’s more important to you, your wife and family or porn? Just sit there and think about it.