I would urge you to try a 12 step program. Even AA is better than nothing at all. You desperately need a strong support system, a sponsor and an accountability partner. You did not fail, but your therapist failed you in not urging you to have a better system in place.
So take a deep breath and re-commit to a recovery process which involves getting into a 12 step program, building a support system, having an accountability partner and then find a suitable therapist who can help you develop healthy coping skills as well as help you learn to develop healthy social and intimacy skills.
Do not give up on yourself! Many addicts slip and relapse along the way,but that in no way means they cannot be successful in recovery.
Understand your triggers. are you hungry, angry, lonely or tired (HALT)??? These are huge triggers for addicts and you need to stop first, ask yourself what's going on before you act out. This way, at least you will see what is triggering you and what you need to work on. Good luck!

Hello...welcome back...there is a part of you that wants something different, something better...focus on that part of you and things will be revealed that you can act upon...you are not alone in your struggles...I will pray for your recovery.

Think about this. What are you trying to compensate for or escape from when you turn to porn? Something is triggering you each time you turn to it. I had to figure out what my main triggers were and plan a healthy avenue to address them. My biggest triggers are boredom, loneliness and feeling inadequate. Now that I have built a support group of people who understand my struggles, all it takes is a phone call to get someone to help me fight the triggers...

Well if you are a compulsive sex addict you could try as hard as you wanted and failure would ensue because the illness is and always will be more powerful than you are if you cannot admit it is.

Once I admitted I have no willpower to stop compulsive sexually acting out and obsessive thoughts of acting out sexually, the decreased and I actually gained some control and decision making power.

I found out that I have character defects, and having to cope with what they produce is what the trigger is. If I see a woman who thinks she for some reason has the right to treat me like trash, I get resentful and wage a war against her that will ultimately make her the real trash and the real garbage. For some reason I have all the willpower in the world when it comes to demeaning and defeating her after the perceived psychological assault, and the character defect there are many. For one I am thinking with an entitled attitude that I don't deserve to encounter a rude or unloving person, which isn't true, just living life avails the opportunity to encounter all kinds of displeasing and unkind people. There is also a character defect of selfishness, I am thinking I need to teach the woman how to survive in the world for her benefit, but I really just want her to spread the word of how messianic I am, so there is a deeper agenda there that is not "good", it is very bad in fact. Then there is the character defect of desiring to control another, so if looked at square I should be thanking God women treat me like shit on instinct because then it eliminates the opportunity for me to control them and function in the character defect that will ultimately lead to resentment and war. Then there is the feeling aspect of the illness where I either feel better than others or less than others, never just one among many. If looked at deeper I see how I have a greedy plan to win women over so I can ultimately make them my concubine and decrease their powers. If looked at deeper than that I see that I truly envy women, for not having to work as hard, for being much better looking an attractive than I, and for everything else they have to offer. Then I can see I cannot see the greatness in women because I am lusting after them without the will to control it, and they have the intuition to expose it without even saying a word or letting others know, so with all that considered, what women in her right mind wouldn't treat a scum bag like me like a piece of trash?

Through clarity women would have to be out of their minds to not treat me with some sort of offense or disgust, and it is all of my doing, even though I was born with an illness that didn't permit me control when sex becomes the main topic, and yes I am fucked, but thank God there is a God who can save the day and reverse the fuck all.

Forgive the french, even though it was in english.

I wouldn't have learned any of this and couldn't have admitted any of this if I hadn't been willing to do whatever it took to change, and I had to change because I have a higher purpose than just slaying fine ass, but as an individual when asked as a youth what did I want to be when I grew up I was always thinking porn star. Without hesitation my first answer silently was "porn star", when the more traditional answers of course was doctor, fireman, police officer, etc.

The great news is now that sex doesn't completely dominate my thinking, women have taken a step down in my terms of what is important in comparison to others, and most women I encounter I can now see are just very scorned and feel deeply unappreciated. Guys like me have never helped them with those two detriments, so I get everything I deserve every time a woman's intuition rings the alarm of "scum bag in the vicinity" when I am speaking with them. If I did any of it on purpose it would be a different story but I know without a doubt I am powerless when it comes to compulsive sex, and the opportunities to have compulsive sex. I am a goner, I will never be able to seriously consider marriage, I will cheat, I am a cheater, and I can't understand why cheating is wrong, because I have an illness that says submitting to the compulsion is the only right, so I need steps, and I need support, and I need God to fight against the illness, because the illness is not aware of the harm it can bring, and all it wants to do is satisfy the out of bounds instinct to have sex, all the time, with as many women as I can, whenever, wherever, regardless of responsibility, regardless of God's will for me, regardless of others, regardless of anything productive for everyone else, my sexual illness is all about me, and what I need, and that is selfishness, and the illness roots in selfishness, so the more unselfish I am, the better chance I have to resemble normal and interact peacefully with everyone else.

Practically no one can admit this, and many die from addiction because it is so powerful and persuasive, but I am one of the few where it clicked, and all I have to do everyday is just follow a routine and some principles, and my reward is great from God all the time when I do this. People will never understand, and most will agree that I am a scum bag, but it's not like I had a meeting with God before I was born and petitioned him to be a sex addict, he made the decision to create the chemistry inside of me that permitted sex addiction, so even me being a sex addict is of God's plan and God has shown me he can reverse any decision made and will if the person wants it and needs it bad enough to experience his grace, mercy, and love.

I'd be more than happy to go over the 12 steps with anyone who needs a tutorial.

The great thing about sexual recovery and sexual sobriety is you don't have to stop being sexual, and you end up being given a new perspective and new mean of control that doesn't include grief, guilt, or shame, because it hindges on thinking of others first, and loving them, in where before we just loved ourselves, and used others, now with recovery we love others, and think of them, and having sex and the gift of sex includes interaction and intimacy with others, even if fucking, so that's the business, and that is the truth, and I am done.

Have a great day.

I'm trying to recover, just like you. I've failed many times but I have learned something along the way. Here's the main thing:
Right now, there's an imbalance in your brain. A real, tangible, measurable imbalance. It can actually be shown on scans of the brain. It's a real thing, this problem. It's not just a failure of willpower. It's a fault in your brain which can be fixed. The best way to fix it is to deprive yourself of porn in any way you can. The less you use porn, the less you want to use it. It's the PMO combination that does the most damage. For the best chance of success, eliminate all 3 for as long as you can. If that's not possible, eliminate the P and keep the MO. When you wake up in the morning, let this be the first thing you tell yourself : "I'M NOT GOING TO WATCH PORN TODAY". And mean it.

So for me, it's about just holding out for one day more. And then doing that again the next day. The longer you hold out, the more chance you give your brain of correcting the imbalance in your brain. I know how hard it is. When you feel that wave of desire flooding through you, you feel totally powerless. But when you stop for a while, it doesn't have the same power over you. Like I said, I haven't recovered either. I've relapsed. I know how shitty it feels. But let's keep getting back on the horse. Keep going.

And remember, don't try to be perfect. Just try to be who you really are. And who you are is NOT the addiction.