Sex / Pornography Addiction Support Group
Sexual addiction, also sometimes called sexual compulsion, is a form of psychological addiction to sexual intercourse and other sexual behavior.
I have a question. Is it true that ALL men look at porn and will no matter what?I have had only 3 boyfriends. My high school sweetheart, Billy, didn't look at it that I know of. But we were so young at the time. My next boyfriend, Dan, had a porn addiction, and so I left him for someone whom I believed didn't look at porn. (I was wrong!) Well, here's the thing... I recently found out that even my dad looks at porn My hero, my favorite person in the world, my DADDY!?!? My mom told me about it. It doesn't bother her at all. She thinks it's normal for him to look at it once in a while. My uncle has a porn addiction, including a 'Kiddy Porn' fetish where he pretends to be a little girl. My aunt's ex-husband has a porn addiction (which is why they are now divorced). So, what's up? Do ALL men have this addiction? Is there a such thing as a man who doesn't?
There is a show on t.v. called "The War at Home" where the father mentions looking at porn in almost EVERY episode! As if this is such a normal thing to do. There was even an episode where he received a new porn video in the mail and he told his wife and kids he didn't want to go someplace with them so that he could stay home to watch his new movie. This really bothers me because I feel like if I should decide to leave my husband, I will always end up with a man who looks at porn.
I don't mean any offense to the men in this group. I know you guys are trying. But, how do I find a man who is against this? Do they really exist? Are there men out there who have not looked at it more than a few times in there life? Are there men out there who find nothing stimulating about porn? Do I need to look like these women to keep a man from looking at porn? I am not what men consider 'sexy'. I am overweight, and I have a lot of 'flaws' with my body. I am not what men consider as beautiful. I do not have a small tight ass and 'perky' boobs. I am just a mom. I have hips, stretch marks, boobs that need support, and even at 25, I still get pimples on my face once in a while. Do I need to go and pay thousand's of dollars for plastic surgery to make my body so appealing to men that they won't want porn if they have me?
There is a show on t.v. called "The War at Home" where the father mentions looking at porn in almost EVERY episode! As if this is such a normal thing to do. There was even an episode where he received a new porn video in the mail and he told his wife and kids he didn't want to go someplace with them so that he could stay home to watch his new movie. This really bothers me because I feel like if I should decide to leave my husband, I will always end up with a man who looks at porn.
I don't mean any offense to the men in this group. I know you guys are trying. But, how do I find a man who is against this? Do they really exist? Are there men out there who have not looked at it more than a few times in there life? Are there men out there who find nothing stimulating about porn? Do I need to look like these women to keep a man from looking at porn? I am not what men consider 'sexy'. I am overweight, and I have a lot of 'flaws' with my body. I am not what men consider as beautiful. I do not have a small tight ass and 'perky' boobs. I am just a mom. I have hips, stretch marks, boobs that need support, and even at 25, I still get pimples on my face once in a while. Do I need to go and pay thousand's of dollars for plastic surgery to make my body so appealing to men that they won't want porn if they have me?
Every man in my family has had issues with running aruond nad cheating on their wives and looking at porn. It is a multi million dollar business and always has been!
Is ther a man that doesn't look at it? I hav eno clue to be honest?????
So while there are guys who don't look at it, at 5% its pretty rare to just run into one. To bring it into scope, while I would laugh at any suggestion that they are connected, the percentage of porn-free men is about the same as the percentage of people earning over 100k a year.
So while I don't intend for this to be insulting (just comparative) Finding a guy without a porn problem would be like finding a woman without emotional issues. Yes, they exist, but don't count on finding one.
Kornbred
That really puts it into perspective!
That reminded me of something I heard a while back...
"10% of men masturbate, the other 90% lie about it"
well, I guess I will be single for a LONG time if I should leave my husband. That, or I could just become a lesbian. (Just kidding, I hope I didn't offend anyone.)
I guess it wouldn't bother me so much if the guy just looked at it once in a while. But every day? Every time I am in the shower? Getting up at 3 or 4 am to look at it? That's just insulting to me. I am right there. I don't want to be passed up for porn. Ya know what I mean?
What I find very bad about porn is when a man prefers it all the time to his sexual relationship with his girlfriend. Otherwise, I would say that it has become OUR problem, to us women, if we can't deal with the fact they do watch it from time to time, without the addiction.. Let's say..when they're alone, a bit bored.. AFTER they've read their paper, done the dishes, worked on their personal project.
But it is a relationship problem when a man can't wait for you to leave the house all the time, when he cannot stop himself from watching porn whenever he is alone, when it's always on his mind, and when he gets bored making love to you. It is very difficult nowadays because of the internet.. cause men who have a high sexual drive need to control themselves if they want their relationship to work out. Unless their watching porn everytime they have a sexual urge doesnt affect their relationship..which I doubt.
And it's not only women who have porn concerns. Men in porn appear to always be hard and can last for ages. In most of te "good" porn, they're all buff. I'm sure most of our husbands aren't built like that. Maybe close, but not "perfect" in that sense.
Don't worry about it. People watch porn, male and female, but that doesn't mean we expect everyone to look and perform like a porn star. I watch a lot of porn and it's not usually about looks. I'm jut a bit of a voyeur.
(In my opinion and my husbands, the women are typically too bony and the boobs are too often fake. I'm not a fan of totally ripped abs on men)