Sex / Pornography Addiction Support Group
Sexual addiction, also sometimes called sexual compulsion, is a form of psychological addiction to sexual intercourse and other sexual behavior.
OK is this place only for Christians or can anyone with any belief or lack of join? i guess i pissed off some people about my comments regarding god. and they didn't like my opinions regarding porn.so i guess because i have different views i must be a infection as it was told to me on the minds of the users here. I have been banned on another group that i only posted once about and that was just about what happened to me. my wife has told me this place looks like a christian recruiting center and that is why she doesn't post here very often and only when she is upset. i have noticed that most of the advice sounds like 12 step babel mixed with a little sprinkle of BS on top. I am very upset that in a OPEN discussion someone that i wasn't even talking to or about took it upon themselves to remove me from a group that i was building the courage to open up in. i guess being a christian is not the same as being Christ like. i am seriously thinking of leaving the site as it seems to reflect little or no bearing on real life or real recovery and everyone is more concerned about protecting others feelings then telling the truth. sometimes the truth hurts like hell but it is still true.and sometime people say things that hurt our feelings but u know what you have it in your control to not read / listen / watch that person. you all can have your bells and whistle magic fairy BS i could really care less however to punish a person by taking away support that was not being abused or mistreated in any way is wrong no matter how you slice it. i have some real issues here that i am trying to get support for but i guess if your not a as it was said to me a BIBLE THUMP ER your not worth saving? since every type of support system i can find seems to be a recruiting tool for religion.maybe my wife and i are on our own. or am i wrong? oh and BTW don't start a discussion if your gonna get upset if someone disagrees with you cause i promise you one thing not everyone is like u.
I'm sorry you have not found the support you were looking for, and hope your experience here improves.
Later dude! I'm tuning out now. Not worth reading any more.
Feel free to post away, only don't ridicule someone's belief and, if they ridicule you, try to resolve it in an agreeable manner. People generally don't get feisty unless you're outright attacking them.
However I must concur with Pat, this is a site more based on encouragement then religion. as well as positive reinforcement.
Now I like to consider myself a pretty devout christian but I get a feeling that there are more people hear of all different backrounds, btw did you see the 12 step skeptic post authored by Pat?
there are posts about the pros and cons of 12 step. So you see everyone is of differing beliefs but we want to be a positive support for everyone.
Again I am sorry for your experience and I hope you stick around I have had an experience where I felt like the odd man out and black sheeped but I stuck around.
Give ds a second chance.
let me know if you need some advice or have any questions I would be more than happy to help you
I am not affilated to an church nor religion, but i have a healthy respect for others right to believe so. I am currently married to a non practising Catholic, who is in recovery for his porn addiction that escalated to a sexual addiction.
I have had a really upsetting day today. I took my eleven year old daughter to be tested for 6 hours by psychologists, and found out she is dyslexic and suffering self loathing which is bordering on depression thanks to many people being not understanding of her condition. As a mother i am worried about her future.
That being said, that does not give me the right to come on here, a support group, and be less understanding of others and their journey's.
I appreciate you are under alot of personal stress in your life, or had a busy day at work. I understand what it is like to deal with a spouse whom is struggling with sexual issues, and how that affects our self worth as a partner. However that is not a licence to be less respectful of others.
I do not believe religion is the problem here, it never has been for me, it is your lack of compassion, abrasiveness and lack of empathy to others and their journey. No body has to agree with what everyone said, for that is life. But so far all your imput has been to tell everyone they are wrong, and without one ounce of support nor understanding. This is what has rubbed people up the wrong way.
We have members in this group who are living day to day trying to fight addiction and the urge to act out sexually, something which stress and confrontation is a major trigger for. As is drama!! We also have members who are in recovery and are doing their very best day to day, with what resources the experts have to help them. Such retorts as 'thats BS' is contemptuous.
Mate its got nothing to do with religion, its your approach.
I am extremely pleased you do not have a pornography addiction, how ever i am going to agree to disagree on your strong views of how porn is not a problem, and support the strong views of those whom are actually experts in the field, ones who have years of experience and much data to back it up. May i refer you to anything written by Patrick Carnes Ph.d.
Now i am the administrator to the spouses group. There are many women and two guys in that group who are suffering greatly at the hands of addiction within their relationships. Many are suffering from manipulation from the addicts, Post Traumatic Stress Syndrom, and self esteem issues. Many are fragile and are not strong enough to even come onto the main board here, as they are so emotionally drained from much drama at home already. More drama is not what they need right now.
As promised in the group statement its a place for them to "come together for healing, venting, understanding, support and friendship without fear of embarrassment nor judgement'.
Because of the many reasons listed above, i do not feel you currently have anything to offer the group, as do many others who have messaged me today. So for that reason i did revoked your membership to the spouses group.
I do very much hope you can work on your anger issues and work on creating less drama, for not only will it benefit you, but will benefit your wife and her struggles, and your family.
May i suggest you start your own group, since you have some very definate opinions, and find those whom share views.
I do not wish to butt heads with you any further, and hope you can start to respect others opinions before you continue to infect the board further with your negativeness, so others with real afflictions can feel confident to post.
May we all have continued strength to all fighting this addiction.
I am in a few different support groups, and in each o have encountered lots of different people. I guess a lot have been christian. but there were some who were not too... some who don't believe in god at all... and some of other faiths.
I think you should only leave this site, if you feel its doing more harm for you then good...
I have run into a person who two who has been doing more harm then good on here, criticizing others and stuff like that. and I my self just had to learn to ignore them.
I like it on here. I have been supportive of every one i can be, and if i don't feel like i can be supportive i just stay silent. I think that's the best way for me. keeps me out of trouble.
My bf is struggling with a porn addiction, and i usually just silently creep on here trying to understand things better.
I guess my point is, there will always be the people out there that are going to do things to piss us off, and make out lives a bit more difficult, and yeah its not fair... but... there's also the people that do help on here.. and they are great....
but yeah, i don't think this is a christian based site...but i do not doubt that there is a lot of Christians on here.
i hope if you choose to stay you get better support on here... good luck with what ever you decide to do.
LL