I cannot or will not tell you are or not an addict. That is up to you.

If you are looking a few times a week, it will only increase as time goes on. Porn is a progressive disease. You will spend hours a day watching more and onto hardcore porn. Then it will come to a point to a point where just watching will not be enough. You will act out sexually seeking anyone who will have you. It will destroy your life.

I am not telling you anything that I haven't experienced myself. Porn killed my first marriage. I started out watching a few times then I went everyday and then to hardcore stuff then to acting out sexually. Porn kills the spirit. There is absolutely nothing good about porn.

I agree with everything 2earlyriser said above about the cycle of porn addiction. As for how to stop, for me it has been largely a matter of will, prayer, finding positive alternatives, being more charitable toward others and avoiding "near occasions of sin" (situations in which one is likely to be tempted).

My wife is going through some medical issues that have taken sex off the table for the last couple of months, and will likely do so for a few months more. (Yet we are more affectionate than ever in smaller ways.) Far from feeling like I am about to explode, I feel more at peace than ever. I am literally spending an hour a day in prayer at the moment, and that is making a big difference. It is also enabling me to be more aware of little things I can do for others. (Of course, you being a social worker, I'd imagine you have opportunities to people all day.)

I avoid things that are likely to tempt me -- when I pass that attractive woman on the street now, I don't go looking over my shoulder to get that extra glance. I do my best to avoid looking at women who are provocatively dressed, and I have even started deleting songs from my mp3 player that put the wrong thoughts in my head. If I were alone and really, really, tempted, I suppose I'd go run an errand to get myself out of the house.

I do recommend breaking this pattern, whether or not it constitutes an addiction. Nothing good can come from it, and there is so many better things you could be doing.

I agree with "2earlyriser" its a progressive disease once you have taken a shot of the porn you want more and more until a point when you get to realize you are wasting a lot of time on it and you are neglecting important work and also you fill find quick and easy solution (temporary solution) to every sad problem is porn and there will be a time when part of you asks for porn and part of you rejects this idea and after acting out on your desire you will feel hopeless and sad then its the time most people realize that they are stuck in mire(wet muddy ground) in simple words that would be clear addiction.

So my advice try to get away with it as fast as you can as if its a hungry beast after you and everything you love,remember I also consider women in bikini and short clothes as mild/soft porn because that's where most people starts from admiring women beauty to the point lusting on their naked body.

May god help you.I hope you understand..!

if u crave it and it affects ur life in a negative way u have a problem. that's the way I look at it. by watching it a few times a week ur fine. I was watching it everyday for hrs after my kids went to bed. im a single mom and don't have time for men. porn was my everything after lights went out. I was addicted. I thought about my next time and planned it out hrs sometimes days ahead of time to make sure I got me "fix" ur a healthy person who doesn't want to cheat on someone while they r away. go watch it and enjoy.

How are you viewing the porn? Can you masturbate without it? I cannot at this time, as I am trying to build 90 days. I had 14, then for 45 seconds in the middle of the night I threw that out. But, I am going to continue, and not be hard on myself. Find out what happened etc.

Anyways, if you are looking at porn on your phone, or a computer, install k9. Toss out the porns, etc. I wish you good luck. Also, talking to people face to face (with people about recovery, and with people about anything) has helped alot. I also found writing down my day in a journal has helped me personally.

hyerin, that's a tough situation. I can't say, either, whether or not you are a sex addict or not. The sex urge is a natural and strong one.
There is concern that you say you try to fight the compulsion to watch porn (this is separate from masturbation itself, though the two get too attached sometimes). It's true that the compulsion to watch porn leads to more and more and other kinds of kinkier porn, and you could end up in serious mental and emotional trouble. Some people end up in physical trouble also when the porn they watch gets kinkier and they begin to act out on the fantasies.

Things that help when your mate is away... don't sit and stew and get bored, do activities that keep you busy, hobbies, social activities, etc.