I understand where you are at. Having sexual desires is normal. Without it the species would have disappeared. Combined w/your sex drive is a desire to be loved, which is what most of us really want. So your trap is that you want love, affection, and love-making from the woman you love but you can't get it.

Been there, done that, got no answers.

My office paralegal recently complained to me that while she was away one weekend on a family trip her husband charge two porn movies to the internet provided. She was pissed. At what, I asked? Proof that your husband was home alone while you were away?

Good luck, bro. Being heterosexual is tough, because men and women aren't really compatible.

Start by making the decision to stop. FInd a group in your local area. Check out http://saa-recovery.org/ or maybe a local church group has a recovery program.

Also check out Patrick Carnes.. He has some great books and a website http://www.sexhelp.com/

Good luck and I hope you decide today to make a change. It is well worth it!