Sex / Pornography Addiction Support Group

Sexual addiction, also sometimes called sexual compulsion, is a form of psychological addiction to sexual intercourse and other sexual behavior.

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snowgoose 02/19/2018

i have just discovered I am a porn and sex Addict. I have been with my girlfriend for nearly 5 years now and sexually we are having quite a difficult time.

I want to have sex all the time without the hard work which she hates. Which has limited us to having sex about once a week if we are lucky. That doesn’t sound to bad but I have quite a high sex drive.

when we don’t have sex I instantly start looking up porn and masterbate to it, up to 4 times a day. I have quit looking up porn on many occasions but it always comes back and stronger then ever before.

One thing that really bothers me is when she promises me later that day we will have sex. “Don’t worry I’m busy now but I promise we will later.” When we don’t it’s an absolute disaster for me. I will pretend to go to sleep then when she’s asleep I will go outside and masterbate to porn 2-3 times.

The worst part is when she doesn’t have sex with me after promising me I get quite mad at her and I make her feel super shitty about herself. Then pretty much we won’t talk to each other for the rest of the day.

I know I am causing a lot of pain and I don’t know how to stop it.

hope someone can give me some kind words!!

Seamus 02/19/2018

Hmmm, you want to have sex all the time, "without the hard work". Is that right?

Well buddy.... The good sex is hard work. And the best sex IS LOTS OF FOREPLAY! It almost sounds like she's not enjoying whatever it is your doing.

A woman can have orgasm after orgasm. You think its from intercourse? Some.... But mostly from foreplay.

To me, your just being selfish. She may plan to have sex later... Guess what? She can change her mind. So.... Go jerk off. You have that strong of a sexual drive, believe me, you don't need porn.

Porn is your addiction, put things on your PC or phone to block it.

Only you can stop it!
Romance her a bit. Put her in a loving mood.

Trust me, most women have a good strong sexual drive too. And if your not spending time giving her pleasure, why should she look forward to just, " Grab it and grunt"?

The pleasure she gets, the more you'll get. Foreplay and intercourse can last hours.

If your just looking for a quicky in sex and with porn. Dude, your missing out.

If you spent more time making the sex great.... and "Working at it". Yould be to tired to look at porn over and over.

You've got a mouth, ten fingers and a willy..... That's a lot for her to choose from!

veggiequeen 02/20/2018

I think he summed that up very well..

BeeGirl 02/20/2018

I have gone through times when I felt the lure of porn and masturbated to it multiple times a day. Unusual for a girl, I know, but more common than you would think. For me it had to do with depression and using masturbating as a way of checking out rather than dealing with things. It started in high school and continued until I went to counseling a couple years ago when my counselor suggested that was the reason. She helped me with things I could do other than look at porn. I still slip sometimes and go down the porn rabbit hole but it's rare now. The other part of it is masturbating out of spite, which I have also done, rather than talking through what is happening even though is painful. The difference is the pain usually goes away after talking about it but the guilt of not saying anything and masturbating stays. I hope this helps!

candycin 02/20/2018

Chances are the porn and masturbating is making you believe that you have a high sex drive because you have trained your brain to think about sex and ejaculation. Check out the site yourbrainonporn.com you will find lots of info about how porn changes the wiring of your brain. In order to break this cycle and re-wire your brain try a 90 day reboot. No sex, no masturbation, no porn. You will be surprised how good you will feel and how much more pleasure you will have being intimate with your gf. Yes sex feels good but when there is an intimate connection its even better. Give it a try. We dont NEED sex, we desire it and i can bet that your gf probably knows that you are watching porn and masturbating several times a day and feels slighted from that. Who wants to be with someone that has just watched others have sex to get off? It makes spouses feel less desired because who could ever live up to that?

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