Sex / Pornography Addiction Support Group

Sexual addiction, also sometimes called sexual compulsion, is a form of psychological addiction to sexual intercourse and other sexual behavior.

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lostwithouther 07/06/2017

I have been a compulsory masturbator and porn viewer since I was 10. I am 35 now and it has ruined my marriage. I read an article in this forum that helped me understand it better. I am fighting it and I WILL WIN but;

I want to know how to regulate the chemicals in the brain that have been thrown into chaos by this.

I am at the point sometimes where I feel there is only one viable option but I have kids and it isn't fair on them.

dlansky 07/07/2017

One site I found very helpful in this process is this: https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/reboot_your_brain

The site is free and it explains what is happening when you use porn and when you stop using it, so that you can better face the withdrawal process.

I believe that pornography addiction is two-fold: the act itself causes a chemical reaction in the brain that makes us crave more, and the act temporarily helps to cover up some of the pain in life, which may include a void of some kind. Breaking the cycle involves forcing oneself to stay away from it long enough for get it out of your system (90 days is the benchmark the above site recommends) and finding more productive ways to address that pain or that void. For example, spending more time with the wife and kids might help, as well as time with other real-life connections. Finding a hobby you feel passionate about can make a big difference as well.

Prayer has also been very helpful for me.

pornhelpdotorg 07/07/2017

We agree that yourbrainonporn.com is awesome. It really helps get a handle on what's going on. Once you've gotten educated, we also suggest finding someone you can trust and who understands what you're going through without judgment - a counselor, a 12-step group, a faith leader, etc. - to connect with in-person. Our web site, pornhelp.org has comprehensive listings for resources throughout the US, Canada and the UK. Let us know if we can help you find some support!

anoyd11 07/09/2017

The book called The Way of Purity by Focus Publishing has a 60 days biblical workbook to read through and have someone hold you accountable to go 60 days without masturbation/pornography. I've used it before and was free for about 90 days before falling again. It works if you work it. Unfortunately, I've fallen to this sin again. But be encouraged as based on my testimony, I was free for 90 days. It started to fall apart when I brought some sinful things back in my life and I don't have any accountability right now. But I do highly recommend the workbook. It will definitely help.

https://www.amazon.com/Way-Purity-Lasting-Freedom-Captives/dp/1885904622

froglob 07/23/2017

Hahaha religious people will try to get you to join a church at every chance they get! You don't need religion! Religion is holding back human evolution on this planet!
That being said. Your brain right now is addicted to the dopamine hits you're giving it when you watch porn. To reprogram your brain you simply need to stop feeding it porn. It's the same as any other addiction.
Find hobbies to keep stuck into when you feel the itch to watch porn. Get the add-on 'Self control' to block porn websites. Stop following hot chicks on Instagram, etc etc.
You can beat this, stay strong, you'll be sweet!

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