Sex / Pornography Addiction Support Group

Sexual addiction, also sometimes called sexual compulsion, is a form of psychological addiction to sexual intercourse and other sexual behavior.

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Gassyg 11/04/2007

Hi. I've been married for 16 years to a sex addict. Before this, I was married to an alcoholic for 8 years. I'm sensing a pattern, duh! I'm pretty sick of being a 'victim' and have read recently that my behavior may actually be rewarding my husband for his behavior. Does anyone know of any groups or chats out there to help enablers change their behavior so we can stop this cycle?

Also, I'd love to hear from others who have actually been sex addicts and have stopped. Why did you stop and what did you do that helped?

Thanks! I've been a member of the infidelity group but think I need a group more specific to this problem.

deleted_user 11/04/2007

If you are not opposed to a "Chirstian" support group for spouses of porn and sex addicts, try a group called Partners For Purity
www.partnersforpurity.com
They have been a great help to my wife in the past, and may be able to answer some questions and offer support to you.
I am a recovering sex and porn addict that is 1 year clean after a 28 year addiction. I stopped when my wife finally had enough and gave me an ultimatum: Stop and get hel or leave. So, I stopped through a combination of God and my wife's support. I joined an online group of addicts who helped me understand that I had an addiction and offered me a lot of support and encouragement as I broke free from it.
If I can answer any questions, please let me know.

deleted_user 11/05/2007

i would really be interested in this topic as well...
I think i have definately enabled addictive personalities in the past as well.
I know it's wrong to assume, but i always thought it was because of my own addictive nature? [not to chemicals or substances....just things like work & sex]

deleted_user 11/06/2007

Ahhh...I'm right here with you, it's called Codependency, and sometimes Coaddict. Check out "codependency no more" by Melody Beattie and even Patrick Carnes has dedicated sections in his book about coaddicts. It's really important to get the codependency in check, it also makes for a higher success rate of recovery for the addict if the partner heals from the coaddiction/codependency.

deleted_user 11/06/2007

I've been doing SLAA for 8 years. It helped me focus on my own addiction to addicts because I seek them out to love me ... which they really can't because, like me, they are emotionally unavailable. Pia Melody has a great book "Facing Love Addiction" If you can find a local SLAA group, you will find friends and familiar stories. There are other groups for co-addicts. COSA, and CODA and Al-Anon is always a great program for working on co-addiction. Let me know if you need more info.

Gassyg 11/06/2007

Thanks for all of the suggestions. I will look into them.

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