Therapy, 12 step meetings, work the steps with a sponsor. The first thing is that you are not alone and this addiction is destroying people, marriages, families. There is hope in recovery.

I echo what candycin said. The most important thing for getting started is to get connected with a person who understands what you're going through, can give you support, and won't judge. Connecting with a real live person is best. Online groups like this can definitely lend support, but live contact often proves more effective in the long run.

If pornography use, in particular, is one of your core problems, you'll find a lot of resources on our web site pornhelp.org. And, even if porn isn't your issue, you'll find links there to therapists and 12-step groups who can help.

As candycin said, you're not alone, and there is hope.