Sex / Pornography Addiction Support Group

Sexual addiction, also sometimes called sexual compulsion, is a form of psychological addiction to sexual intercourse and other sexual behavior.

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zmancometh
zmancometh

This is my first post so here goes.  I am 41, and have been in a loving 12 year relationship with my fiancee.  However, I have been dealing on and off with a porn addiction for over 20 years.  I used to think that I had gotten it under control for the past few years, but I was wrong.  There would be periods that I would go cold turkey for months, even years, but at some point, I would fall off the wagon. My better half recently caught me again for like the 5th ,or 6th time in 12 years, and she is threatening a breakup.I have never cheated on her with anyone else, but she still sees it like that and feels like "she isn't good enough" for me, which is far from the truth.  But I nevertheless still hurt her and I really feel crushed about it.  I know that being sorry won't cut it, and I am at a load on how to crush my addiction.  Should I seek professional help?  Any inputs would be greatly appreciated.  Thank you.

Struggles
Struggles
One Day At A Time, Sex & temptation is everywhere. its ok if you masterbate. We only human, we have struggles as long you flight to be clean. you a hero and keep going at it.
windandsky
windandsky
I think you have to throw away all porn, block all internet access, and set up consequences if you fail (like running laps, for example). I think it's good that you have been honest with your fiancee.
nixon1972
nixon1972
Throughout this support group people have both praised and hated professional help. Sometimes effective for some guys but not always.
Andrewt89
Andrewt89
so I am 29, been married for about 12 years. use to watch porn on and off. Finally escalated body rubs from asian massage places. my wife decided to look through cell phone records to stumble upon random. numbers that I reached out to for these particular services. Wife feel betrayed and very in secure now. she cannot understand why I have been seeking this particular pleasures, totally demolished her trust and now we are unsure about our relationship. before this we were in process of buying a house and a she is also pregnant with second child. I truly screwed up however there is nothing I can do.