Sex / Pornography Addiction Support Group

Sexual addiction, also sometimes called sexual compulsion, is a form of psychological addiction to sexual intercourse and other sexual behavior.

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in need of some guidance

austinf
austinf

Hey guys, I'm Austin and I'm a porn/masturbation addict. I was so bad to the point where I was messaging a girl on instagram and snapchat just to talk dirty and get off to that. I have a girlfriend, and I told her I had an addiction to porn and masturbating. I didnt tell her about my addiction to messaging random girls to talk dirty and sext (but never actually meet up with this person in reality). I would fantasize with other woman and get off to that. Do i need professional help? I love the woman im with and i dont know why i have urges for other sexual desires with other women.



Long story short...


A girl messaged her on instagram telling her that i was trying to sext but not actually meet up...


She's pissed at me, and i know she deserves to be pissed, but i dont want to be addicted to anything and i need advice to change my behavior!



Anything helps

MemphisWH
MemphisWH
Hello and welcome, thank you for sharing.

Yes you should seek out professional help to help guide you to a better way of life for yourself.

you must learn why you act out need a fix.

What causes you to act out? Why do you need it? what could you do instead?

You must learn to love yourself and focus on being the best person you can be.

You should start a daily journal and write down why you need it, how you feel when you need it.

If you really want to purge the porn out of your veins, try reading the bible just for a few minutes first when you need porn. There is plenty of it in the bible.

Find a local SA group, go to face to face meetings, It has greatly helped me 9 months sober. Working step 6.

Change what you listen to, what you watch, what you need from yourself.

Change for yourself.


I pray you are safe and healthy.
austinf
austinf
Thank you very much, I have been actively working towards most of those things. Definitely need to try SA
FailurebutFIGHTER
FailurebutFIGHTER
Hey, i understand, i myself had a porn addiction, but ive finished that, however, i still have a masturbation addiction. I dont know if i can stop sometimes, you just cant say no to the temptation, hope you build up the stregth and good luck. I dont think ill ever break this addiction, ive tried for years, but i cant. i hope you can. try going to someone proffessional a therapist or SA. hope you will get through this
TheNewMichael
TheNewMichael
I agree with the two responses about getting a therapist or a irl group (both?). For me, along with therapy, it was being open with this group and then with loved ones. I think becoming accountable not only helps curtail the urges while alone, but also maybe broke another addiction to 'secret pleasure'. Best to you, we're in this together.
SusieS
SusieS
Hi Austin.. just the other day my boyfriend told me the same thing and was doing pretty much the same thing, which is why I am on this website now... If I were you in the situation I wouldn’t bring her along in your addiction. As much as I love my bf I am afraid that I am just going to have to break things off, after being together 7 years. I hope you both can get better and not have to seek other women’s attention to get off. Good luck