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Sexual addiction, also sometimes called sexual compulsion, is a form of psychological addiction to sexual intercourse and other sexual behavior.

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Battling But Improving

DBNguy
DBNguy

Hi All, 



I just wanted to tell you that since I opened up about my problem to my mum I haven't watched any XXX 


I did ejaculate twice on the 1 & 2 October, just opened up to a friend of mine & mentioned the crushes I had over the years and it all came flooding back & I was fantasizing again. 


I didn't masturbate though. 


Then today I fantasized again, but mainly on my hypothetical future wife & I did manage to be aroused & got wet down below. 


I had tried that before a few times. Never watched a lot of straight porn as I found it rather disrespectful and demeaning to women


& I also found men more sexually attractive. 


When I was at the shop the other day, I saw 4 guys I found attractive, one guy really aroused me - his rear profile aroused me, I managed to think it away. 


I'm debating going to the doctor and getting medicine for depression, I've heard it can be tied to that (which i've battled with since I hit puberty) 


Worship music and prayer is helping.


I'm also started walking in the garden again, hopefully use up the energy, but sometimes I find I still feel like doing something when I'm tired or can't sleep. 


I really hope I can permanently overcome it. Ideally I want all desire gone until my wedding night. 


Glad I have a blocker app on my phone & mum is holding me accountable. 



Feel free to contact me, putting my focus on someone else helps distract me from any feelings that bubble up. 



❤

Dantes
Dantes
Hello friend, desires of sex will never go away. This is in your nature. Look at things as they really are: the battle isn't to stop wanting sex or women. The battle is to control your sexual passions. It's different. The reason why you want to watch porn is because you are a man and you need sex. Sex is healthy. It is designed by God. But you need to learn to experience it with your woman, rather than with your hand and a video.

So, desire won't go away. You need to practice self control and discipline. Do more sports, work, study, just make your life busy. Mental issues will go away, you'll feel better, you'll meet the woman, and it'll get better. You just need to do the hard thing now.
DBNguy
DBNguy
I'm planning on inundating my mind and body with so much stuff it's got no time & energy to even think of sex.

Definitely going to do a lot more exercise, hopefully it'll drain my body of energy - channel any sexual energy into that.

Then hopefully in a few years when I'm making sufficient money to be able to support a family etc.

God will bring a woman into my life whom I'll fall in love with and marry & my desires will be exclusively for her.

I think if I really loved a woman, who was also very beautiful, it could work out.

But part of me is still scared since I've always found men more attractive, hopefully in time that'll go away.
Hormones can be all over the place when you're young.

I'm just handing it all over to God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit.
I trust that they will give me the ability to sort out what I can't on my own.