Hey,
so what are you running from then?
Why are you feeling the need to get a fix?
do you read a little of the bible right before you act out?
do you have a daily journal?

Sigh....
Sick of religious fanatics
Bother someone else with your illusionary fairytales
Thx anyway, peace to you
But zero interest in religious nonsense

ok, why do you see it as religious? isn't porn a fairytale? you asked how to get the poison of porn out of your system, I told you how I did it,
you came here asking for help, I want to help you.
I want you to be sober free of porn, free of the addiction of lust, Able to look yourself in the mirror and be proud you dont have to worry about porn in every part of your life.
I want you to be able to say you love yourself and know you are not in control of your addiction, your addiction is in control of you, Let a higher power take control of your addiction. You have been in control, not, ... and see how and where it got you.
You are hurting i get that, your life is messed up, i get that. You cannot stop looking, needing, seeking out porn, masturbating nonstop day in and day out. normal sex doesn't do it for you, you hide your addict, you fear what would happen when someone finds out, you cross limits you never though you would.
You might even be having sex with people you never thought you would. You have sex in places you shouldn't.
You forego friends, family and a life for your addiction.
you might even drink to forget, to have sex, to attempt to wash away the guilt.
You might need to to take drugs to have sex with people.
So you want help, you want to know how i did it? I turned to SA, I turned my life over to my higher power, who I call God.
I turned the control of the uncontrollable over to God who can have control of the lust, the sickness, the sex, the porn, the drugs, the alcohol, for today to keep me sober, safe and healthy, I did try to manage my life my way lying making excuses, feeling entitled, hating myself, wanting to be lusted after and lusting after people,
Yes I pray every day now, Yes I listen to Christian music(KLOVE) every day, Yes i read a little of the bible every day now, I go to meetings 5 days a week, I reach out to my sponsor every day,
I am glad I am 8+ months sober, I know what and who was missing from my life, from my 2 marriages i destroyed, for the countless number of relationships i destroyed, mine and others.
I did not tell you to stop acting out, or even stop looking at porn, I just suggested that you read the bible a bit before acting out, if after reading it you feel like you need to act out you need to get your fix then go ahead. No one will stop you.
I only want to help you and I care about the damage you are doing with the addiction controlling you. I know the hurt and pain you must feel every time you want to stop and cant.
So yes I will pray for you and that you are safe and healthy , and that you get the relieve of your addict through your high power.

Hi theeffects,
A lot of people are here to give you support. I know what worked for me is accountability. It made me get painfully honest with people I care about, which finally made me be honest enough with myself.
I'm realizing lately that my body wasn't only addicted to the rush of finding porn/sexual release. But also to the rush I got somewhere in my body/mind from feeling shame for my fantasy and porn lifestyle.
So what worked for me is getting it out in the open, and getting an accountability partner. Keep trying to get free. I know you will!

I’m new to this site, but as you found out I also noticed a lot of comments about the Bible & God that could be off putting for someone who is not religious or even Christian like me. I’d say a problem becomes more serious & a situation you want to get out of more consuming when you place all your attention on it. Perhaps, there is not a day that you can be without porn , but I’m sure you can have at least a few minutes a day if not hours where your attention can be in something else. That’s already a beginning and within your grasp, so what if you couldn’t avoid pornography today. Why make it into a life or death struggle? The very impatience and desire to get completely rid of it is causing suffering. A few minutes of freedom every day are very powerful & perhaps with time those moments can be extended. You’re aware that this is taken a huge toll. Relationships.? Work? That’s already a great step, but don’t have unrealistic expectations that getting rid of your porn addiction is going to solve them all. Cheer up, be patient & don’t judge yourself too harshly . If you have to use porn and masturbate try not to spend too much time on it. Just do it & move on to do something you like or go for a run or some physical activity. I guess what I’ m trying to say is enjoy life whenever there is a chance even if it’s only for a few minutes. Our time here is short & obsessing over a problem is not going to solve it. Who knows maybe with time you’ll start getting addicted to those moments of freedom more than to porn. I might say that that’s also the hope I have for myself although I don’t get down when I use porn since I don’t take that as a monumental failure. However, here I apply what could be considered a golden rule & that is to do as little damage to others & to myself as possible & that includes abstaining from extremely violent or disgusting porn. Nevertheless, perhaps the best porn is no porn, but if I can be there yet I’ll take it one day at a time & don’t beat myself if I relapse. One has always to move on. Best of luck & please feel free to share