I know where you're at, shared the same destructive/addictive behavior. First step, and it's free, look for an SAA or other 12 step group in your area, then download (free) K9 pornblocker and let a partner in your sobriety enter the password. In addition you would find it helpful to find some healthy practices to engage in, walking in nature, meditating, or ?
Accepting that you have a problem is a huge step, congratulations on that!

Hey Tycho,
I have been there brotha. You are taking a great first step! That's all the coddling you'll get from me. I have been exactly where you are and I decided that enough was enough! You have two options here. You can decide that the feeling you have now is the worst feeling you ever want to experience (and believe me I know it feels rotten) or you can let your addiction continue and see what horrors await you.

First, Jimor is right. SAA is a great organization and they are free if you need them to be.

http://www.pugetsoundsaa.org/

Second, K9 is a godsend! I have written numerous praises to Bluecoat because their software is so easy to use, non-intrusive, and doesn't take up a lot of resource (so it won't slow your computer down) On most browsing sessions I don't even notice I have it on (as long as I only do what I am supposed to) also IT'S FREE! Do yourself a favor and install it immediately !

Third, Get ready for the hardest and most rewarding thing you will ever do in your life! I am currently on my third or fourth attempt at recovery depending on how you look at it. I hope that you are different, I hope that you can kick this the first time you try because it's miserable. This most recent attempt is very fresh but I'm doing very well and feeling good about it! Here is why I failed in the past, these may or may not apply to you.

I didn't learn my triggers: I wanted to get healed but I didn't change any of my other behaviors. I was still using the computer with the door closed (as I write this I realized that it was closed so I got up to open it) I was still letting myself get bored and I wasn't trying to address any of my core problems (my depression) Once i started changing these habits it's gotten a lot easier. It's not easy but you'll see the difference if you try to put the effort into it.

I thought weening myself off porn would be easier then stopping cold turkey: I was letting my addiction talk me into "just a little bit" or "once a week". No! You need to stop completely! It sucks for a couple weeks but if you've got something else to do you'll do fine.

I gave up: at some point in each of my attempts I slipped up. This time is different because when I slip up I take a few hours (yes hours) to determine what actions I could have taken to stop myself then I make myself incorporate them into my daily routine.

I didn't get out of my comfort zone: This is the big one! Sure I went to SAA but I didn't want to talk in the program and I though writing journals and meditating were just a crock-o-shet. I've learned a lot. Meditation alone is huge, I am not a spiritual person but when solid science says that meditation increases activity in the frontal lobe which is where impulse control and logical thought are processed.

You can do this. It's a struggle but i'm finding that it's worth it!

In addition to the advice you've been offered, you may also want to do the following:

1) Purge everything pornographic or tempting that you may have in your house. Avoid any places that may create temptation. Cancel. any premium channels that offer mature content.

2) Learn your triggers and built a sound battle plan to deal with them, before you know it every time you get a trigger you'll use those tools instead of indulging.

3) Have someone else set restrictions for the K9 Blue Coat web filter, so that every time you even try to access any questionable site, you'll be met with a loud bark.

4) Have an accountability partner available to use when you are tempted, not when you have fallen off the wagon. This way you'll be less likely to relapse.If you relapse, pick yourself up and try again, no sense on getting down on yourself, porn loves guilt and shame to thrive.

5) This goes without saying, there is has to be a masturbation and sex fast for, at least, 90 days. I personally had to go beyond the 90 days to ensure my masturbation did not include playing scenes from past porn flicks I had watched. This way, you'll eliminate the masturbation/porn ritual connection from your mind.

6)In the 90 days sexual fast, you'll be thrown into hyper sexual drive because your body and mind are noticing the lack of visual stimulation, so plan accordingly. Get a hobby, buy a bike, call your accountability partner, go somewhere public where you cannot indulge. And remember, the urge will pass, it's only an urge after all.

7) See yourself as someone who never saw porn and act accordingly. The more you stay away from it, the easier it becomes and before you know it, it will be a thing of the past.

8) While it is true that you can never ever deal with porn again, once sober.Once you become sober, you may not want to anyway because your mind has gotten used to not seeing it and it no longer needs it. So know that you do not need porn in your life, there is no logical, life affirming reason why you would want to even look at it.

9) One way to create a distaste for it is to make a list of what porn has to done to you, what is has stolen from you and what price you have paid for it and end up with nothing to show for it but guilty and shame. Keep this list with you, to use when you feel an urge. It is a reminder not to indulge and always end reading the list by saying, "I now choose to be free from pornography addiction." This positive affirmation helps keep you sober, instead of relapsing. Say it as many times as you need to.

10)Think of yourself as more than capable of conquering this addiction. It has no power whatsoever over you, unless you allow it. It is, after all, an outside source. Create a plan where you lead your life in positive ways. Do not get down on yourself when you feel as though it is a struggle to get sober. For me, it was a struggle so long as a stayed focused on the addiction. It only stopped being a struggle when I started to focus on the recovery. While I was on the fast, I said to myself "Day so and so of freedom from pornography addiction", this made a huge difference to me and kept me in the positive end of it.

Yet the most important part of recovery is surrender. It seems like a rather dumb thing to do because we think it would leave us vulnerable to attack from the porn monster. Ah but no, when we surrender ourselves to God or the Universe, we allow that energy to reach us and makes us stronger for the recovery ahead.

In the beginning of my recovery, every time I felt an urge or get a trigger, I read the Psalms 23 and 27 out loud and slowly absorbing every word, and before I knew it, the urge would pass.

I have to also say that I am not a religious critter by any means, but that tactic worked for me. Another thing I did was let God have my addiction and to guide me through it all because I fully understood that I could not do it alone because I had tried and failed miserably.

Believe me when I tell you that when it was suggested to me that I surrender and seek God to assist me, I bristled and I kicked harder than a mule with a bad case of fleas but in my desperation I had no other choice but to do that. I ended up benefiting from my choice of assistants in ways I cannot describe in mere words.

So here I am sober, at peace and happy.So if I can do it, so can you, so can anyone. What I wrote above are merely suggestions, but I am offering you choices and hope that you can have a wonderful life henceforth.

Hope this helps,
Wolf

Here is a Sex Addicts only board
http://www.dailystrength.org/groups/healing-from-sex-and-love-addiction

There are additional resources and discussions as well.

I would like to thank everyone for their advice and support, it truly means a lot to me to see this much advice for something I am taking very seriously.

I have looked into support groups and suggest Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA) - I think they are the best. Hopefully you can find meetings in your area.

SLAA is a 12 step group and is based on the AA model that God is your higher power and He/She will save you (and I hate to say this, but if God really gave a crap about me, why did He make me a sex & porn addict??? hmmm? and if He made me a sex addict, why do I have to fight so hard to NOT be a sex and porn addict?? prayers don't help that much for me...) and some people are really put off by the whole God thing. Apologies to "the faithful"...

With that said - I have been a porn addict, too - and it is hard to be sober when the internet is so available.

I know a SLAA person that cannot have a job with computer access. He cannot own a personal computer or smartphone, because he will get online and not stop looking at porn until it costs him his job, home, etc.

The fact you are here is good. i hope you can get counseling. Group/12 step meetings are good, but 1 on 1 counseling is really much more helpful, IMO.

I started seeing a counselor recently, and deleted about 500 megabytes of porn from my computer, and I am really trying to stay sober and avoid porn totally. Every day is a bit of a struggle - just remember - the positive feelings of self-worth you have is better than the short term high and subsequent guilt you feel from looking at porn.

Hang in there and do your best to stay sober! Best wishes...

I just wanted to thank everyone that commented. I have a very similar problem and have struggled with it for a long time. Just reading about people with similar problems and how they confront them makes me feel a new hope that I can kick it, and that I'm not alone. I didn't think it would make any difference having support but it really does. The advise on meditation and journaling was very helpful. Thank you!