Sex / Pornography Addiction Support Group
Sexual addiction, also sometimes called sexual compulsion, is a form of psychological addiction to sexual intercourse and other sexual behavior.
Hi there,
This is my first time posting on this topic because I felt that my issues were not bad enough to be a serious problem. Today however, I realized that things have gone too far.
I watch a lot of porn and I usually chalk that up to the fact that I'm a guy in his 20s who still lives at home and has never had a girlfriend or had sex. I usually watch porn about four times a week (even more depending on work hours).
Its been getting to the point where things are going too far and its getting to be like drugs where I need more to get my fix. For example, first I started watching more and more extreme and shocking things to avoid getting tired of it. Next, I began to do it multiple times within one sitting until my skin was raw, and I would still do it again the next day.
The final straw was when I was drunk by myself last night and I decided to get really crazy with it. I heard about certian things a man can do to make his orgasim more powerful involving parts of the body not meant to be touched if you know what I mean. So I did that and it felt really good, but I was very ticked off at myself afterwards for doing it.
Things have just gone way too far, and its to the point where I may hurt myself (which I am no stranger to because I used to cut myself). I'm just so freaking lonely and my body and mind are urging me to have sex all the time. I'm trying to fight it, but that never really works. I'm at a loss and need help badly.
This is my first time posting on this topic because I felt that my issues were not bad enough to be a serious problem. Today however, I realized that things have gone too far.
I watch a lot of porn and I usually chalk that up to the fact that I'm a guy in his 20s who still lives at home and has never had a girlfriend or had sex. I usually watch porn about four times a week (even more depending on work hours).
Its been getting to the point where things are going too far and its getting to be like drugs where I need more to get my fix. For example, first I started watching more and more extreme and shocking things to avoid getting tired of it. Next, I began to do it multiple times within one sitting until my skin was raw, and I would still do it again the next day.
The final straw was when I was drunk by myself last night and I decided to get really crazy with it. I heard about certian things a man can do to make his orgasim more powerful involving parts of the body not meant to be touched if you know what I mean. So I did that and it felt really good, but I was very ticked off at myself afterwards for doing it.
Things have just gone way too far, and its to the point where I may hurt myself (which I am no stranger to because I used to cut myself). I'm just so freaking lonely and my body and mind are urging me to have sex all the time. I'm trying to fight it, but that never really works. I'm at a loss and need help badly.
I'm glad you are coming to the realization that you have a problem with porn, it's indeed the first step. As much as you are realizing that it is been escalating to an uncomfortable level. I personally have been there, one day I realized that if I kept on that road, it'd be harder for me to get out of the abyss.
Now to address the cause of your addiction as you see it, being that you live at home, you are lonely and you are a young guy, etc. Loneliness is mainly caused by the thoughts you are having about your situation at the moment. Example: If I think I don't have anyone to share my life with, I do not have a girlfriend then, of course, I would feel awfully lonely.
So, mind you, I do not have that issue because I am very comfortable being alone and celibate but it was not always that way.Perhaps, you could start on the road to recovery by purging all your porn, getting a filter for your computer and join a recovery program.
Of course, the first thing they will ask you is to abstain from masturbation for at least 90 days, as your masturbation is associated with your porn ritual, so to speak.
To avoid relapse, it is recommended to form what I call a contingency plan to address triggers, those things that cause you to want to indulge in porn. It can be anywhere from talking to someone about it, to diverting your attention from it by leaving the premises and taking a bike ride, etc.,
Then, what it is also recommended is to start new habits and a new life, so to speak. In the sense, that your days are totally devoid of porn and before you know it, months into your new routine, you can have a life affirming routine. For that to happen, you have to stick to it and think of yourself as porn free.
Furthermore, it is also recommended that you keep positive thoughts going because porn thrives in negative emotions and every time you feel a negative emotion, porn can and has been known to come back to haunt you, starting the cycle all over again.
For the loneliness what I did was join volunteer groups, there are tons of things you can do for others, like teaching someone to read, read to someone who is in a nursing home, take care of abused animals in a shelter. Tons, I mean tons of stuff, doing things for others opens an entire world for you and it raises your self-esteem in ways you cannot even imagine.
Hope this helps,
Wolf (11 months porn free)
Oh well I'm still going to give it my all and try to beat this stupid habit. Its just gross and it takes up too much of my life.