Sex / Pornography Addiction Support Group
Sexual addiction, also sometimes called sexual compulsion, is a form of psychological addiction to sexual intercourse and other sexual behavior.
Hi,
I have been feeling pretty bad lately. I don't know if I have a porn problem or if I just need to grow up. Since my first post I have indulged in porn. When I feel bad, I want to have sex with someone or look at porn.
I work and so I make myself feel good by doing well at work. When that doesn't happen I feel pretty crappy. I want to escape from my problems then and used to porn was good enough for that.. but now I don't feel the drive to do that because it isn't real enough. I actually have to be in a good mood and thinking all is well to look at porn now.
I know this is a sort of scattered post but if you have the time to read and respond I appreciate it.
I have been feeling pretty bad lately. I don't know if I have a porn problem or if I just need to grow up. Since my first post I have indulged in porn. When I feel bad, I want to have sex with someone or look at porn.
I work and so I make myself feel good by doing well at work. When that doesn't happen I feel pretty crappy. I want to escape from my problems then and used to porn was good enough for that.. but now I don't feel the drive to do that because it isn't real enough. I actually have to be in a good mood and thinking all is well to look at porn now.
I know this is a sort of scattered post but if you have the time to read and respond I appreciate it.
There are tests online that you can take to see if you have an addiction. Meantime, if you need sex or porn to feel better or as way to cope with your emotions is an indication that you may have an addiction.
Others with more expertise will be able to help you further,
Wolf
thank you for your reply. I'm just scared cause I don't know what is going to happen to me. I just can't think straight :(. I never have been able to.. Whenever I am facing a hard problem I just want to cover it up.. and along with that, I want to run away or forget completely about it. (that's where porn comes in) Now though porn isn't doing the trick. I guess I am starting to realize you can never run from problems but you have to face them. I am also feeling very guilty and scared of my past mistakes coming back to haunt me but even more scary is the thought that I will never change and I will always be a bad person. so that is just about it :( I'm afraid if I find a better way to cope than porn I will go right back into running, and who knows what it will be.. Thank you once again for your reply!
Just because you have made poor choices in your life, it does not make you a bad person.
It is true you need to face your issues head on, otherwise, the issues will eventually face you, the Universe will come up with your issues and say:" Remember me?" in the most inconvenient way, so I learned to simply deal with things right then in there.
Now, try to figure you what it is that you are unable to think things through, that has left you so paralized with fear. Truth be told, the past is the past, there is no sense on going over it many times, since you cannot change it.
The only thing you can change is your today, the decisions about your life that you make today will shape your future, so make sure those decisions are positive towards your life and they are of benefit to you.
So maybe next time you are facing a difficulty, break it down in smaller pieces instead. I do that all the times, otherwise, I'll be overwhelmed beyond recognition.
Incidentally, I will let you in a secret: Porn never solved a problem in anyone's life. In fact, it created problems no one ever thought they could have. I call that: destructive creativity.
Hope this helps,
Wolf