Sex On The Brain Community Group
A place for those of us with non existent (or dwindling) sex lives to gather. Whether it is to share just how you are feeling or what you miss, or crave or fantasize about (or perhaps have tried with unexpected results?)… I am hoping to find somewhere for those of us fellow "horntoads" to come and chat when we are incredibly lonely and our toys are not enough to keep...
Silly Wabbit just posted an endless list of different moods for different days and I do believe there are many that may be on the itinerary for both men and women. Some time back, I would hear from a very clever friend of how he described a good relationship (or good sex life) in essence was a big healthy mix ... days of playful mutual taunting and teasing....lots of foreplay.... maybe some long drawn out very sensual romantic times... and others times where we want it so bad we just want (in my case) to be bent over a table or nailed against a wall and feel his hard cock pounding into me.
In addition to all his desires, I do have a few different ones (perhaps because I am a woman, or maybe because I need to feel sexy wanted and yes sometime loved again) We lose ALL of this when our partner shows no interest or desire anymore.
Would love to hear more of what we all want on both our posts...
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I have toys. So the ones I have not used or need any more, are gone in the trash. One of my toys is just a regular hand held massager with an attachment. The other is a real insertable toy. This morning I ordered a new toy with attachments. It is small and has a brush like attachment and the other looks like a rose with a tiny tongue. I'll get it in about 2 weeks. Rechargable and...
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This past week there was both Cow Appreciation Day and National I Love Horses Day so naturally... Hope you made some moo-neigh this weekend!
I know what you mean about losing desire when you don't feel wanted. It's really interesting that someone else's reaction to us or lack of reaction to us can affect our own desire. When I don't feel like I look sexy or am sexy it actually really decrease my experience of physical arousal.
And I think women (maybe men, too, I don't know) are really self=conscious about their bodies and how they look and will often just self judge themselves negatively before anyone else even gets a chance.
Example: I'm too fat for sex so I'm not even going to put myself out there.
That's one thing that is my head. If only I were thinner and fitter I would be more confident and flirty with men.
I have found that most of us (men and women both) do have something we wish were different. We come in all shapes and sizes and the good thing is that we also have different things that drive us toward another. With me being beaten down as a kid (verbally, not physically) it has made me far more accepting of others flaws since mine were magnified .
I tell all I am not some skinny little 25 yr old nympho all slapped together... I come complete with my hips and curves and all my wants and desires for passion and to share that connection with someone special. . Funny thing is that is what a lot of men do want. Someone who can be content and comfortable in their own skin. Confident in asserting and asking for what they want. (or at least that is what they tell me)
If we do find someone special, often they will find things that do attract us together. For me it is that he has that devilish twinkle in his eyes and a sexy evil grin... the eyes and smile are what stand out the most.
I would start chatting with someone a very long time ago. Both of us were lonely and feeling unwanted. We would exchange pix and keep in contact for all this time. He would convince me that I am still attractive desirable and wanted (and although I doubt he needed to hear it, I have told him the same so many times) To me … when two people can open up and say and do whatever is on their minds is when things become almost perfect.