Sex On The Brain Community Group
A place for those of us with non existent (or dwindling) sex lives to gather. Whether it is to share just how you are feeling or what you miss, or crave or fantasize about (or perhaps have tried with unexpected results?)… I am hoping to find somewhere for those of us fellow "horntoads" to come and chat when we are incredibly lonely and our toys are not enough to keep...
As a child we are so glad to hear these words. As an adult in a sexless marriage (or currently in no relationship) those words are screaming in our minds.
I was always very shy and quiet. As I have grown older and been through so much, I have become a bit of a touchy feely person. I have become more aware of others and when they crave attention (or simple human touch) as well. I work with the public, openly chat and share and acknowledge people (something many do not take the time to do) For so many, just a simple hi, how are you can make their day. So that is what I do.
There are also many times when I do struggle with my own lack of affection and physical touch. What I would not give for a man to pull me close, look deep into my eyes and smother me with kisses. As things are now, I do get goosebumps at the mere touch of someones hands against my skin. I have learned to enjoy just a simple hug from a friend since that seems to be what I am limited to.
Sometimes I am aware of using food to tamp down unrequited sexual feelings. it's awful. I don't feel I have control over it because I am not getting one need met so I look to something I can control to try to make myself feel better.
she's asexual and hates sex and told me the only reason she was willing to do it at all was when we first got together but said it totally disgusted her.. that felt great on my ego.. so yeah she vetoed sex like a year into our relationship but even by then we barely did anything anyways. even just me trying to give her a hug as she leaves to go to work gets me a growl of annoyance. i should prolly just give up even trying but it's literally the only chance i ever have at touching anyone. i dont really know anyone else outside of casual acquaintances she and i sometimes get together with to play D&D but that's like once maybe twice a month if that? and they're not really the huggy types, pretty sure i'd get asked to not come back if i went and tried to give anyone there a hug lol..
but yeah.. i get it.. i go crazy sometimes wanting to scream for wanting just to be touched or to touch someone.. i've tried so many times running ads on personal sites just trying to find regular friends to do stuff with and never having any luck so it kills me trying to post stuff about trying to find anyone wanting to be more than just friends like a movie snuggle buddy or whatever but i still do occasionally try.. my health sucks and it's only getting worse.. i dont want to die without ever being able to hold someone again so i cant stop trying to find someone whose as lonely as i am and wanting to find someone else wanting to find someone to connect to..
In the end, what I wouldn't give --- to be touched and share that connection with some0ne again. Is very hard on the ego when we are with another who has no desire or need for even a mere touch. (and it annoys the hell out of me that they don't seem to care--- further crushing our self esteem)
Hang in there. Hugs, Kim