I’ve only seen the first one, I’m going to have to watch them all. The books were good.

I saw part of the first one but really wasn't interested.

On E they had 1 and 2 back to back and are going to replay them this week end. They are a bit censored but truthfully I didn't know if I could handle seeing the "red room" uncensored .

Mary-- the first one was a bit rough and kind of introduced us to the world of bdsm. I always said I am not really into physical pain. At that point HE was.

The second one was a bit better. She did help him to uncover just what caused him to become this way. Ultimately , he did tone things down because he did come to truly love and want her more than that control.

Now I am dying to see the third. As I understand it, I believe that one is about after they marry and have a life together, another woman does come into the picture trying to claim Christian for herself, but SHE does step up to make it known that he is hers now.

When it gets to rough sex, I am not into that. I want someone I can trust and be tender with.
Glad the second one is better.

You could trust me Mary, we would have a safe word:) I haven’t watched more than 15 minutes of the first because it wasn’t how I imagined it from the book. As usual except for the lord of the rings. Thank you Peter Jackson!

Had a girlfriend that was into bondage. And I introduced bondage to my wife.

Bubba I am curious... just restraints on hands and feet or the heavy duty bars, clamps and more extreme stuff? If you'd rather not say I understand. Is none of my business... just my need to explore and discover. lol

( I have come to understand that some who do dip the proverbial toe in the water do so because they know they can trust their partner and explore those limits together.) I look forward to the day I may find that.

Just restraints (ropes) for the hands and feet (and elbows to knees). And a scarf for a gag. And different positions like spread eagle faced up and down, Strapped down to a workout bench, bent over a foot board with legs spread wide. All that good stuff.... :)

That's all bearable. (I have seen a bit more graphic and almost torturous. That was too extreme to me.) Like I said -- I think as long as you have that trust and mutual curiosity and excitement then you have your own shades of grey. (wink, wink)

I have clostrophobia and was attacked by a boy in school who tried to strangle me.

Then it is no wonder you don't like to even think about rough sex

I have never dealt with that so have no fear

Mary, sorry to hear that.
Yes, there is trust involved and having her in a safe spot and in her comfort zone. Not into that hard core stuff like face slapping, whipping or any type of torture. Well, the only slapping is love taps on the butt followed up by kisses. :)

:) :) :)

A little slap on the ass is not a bad thing :-)
I don’t want rough sex but I like aggressive sex, lots of passion.