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mumms
mumms

Just over a month ago now I got the knock at my door that has ruined everything. On a day I'll never forget, my husband was arrested with CP charges. We've been married about 2 years and I'm currently pregnant with our first child. I'm so hurt and torn because everything I've worked so hard for in my life is being ripped away, for something I didn't do. 


I know this forum isn't as active anymore, but I'm hoping to get some advice and someone to talk to. I'm choosing to stay with my husband right now, but I have no clue if I'm making the right decision. Of the friends who know the situation, some are fully supportive and others say they would be long gone. I have an idea of what I'm in for based off the other stories here, but I'm looking for guidance on how this will effect both my life and my baby's life moving forward. I reside in Canada, so the rules are likely different here. I'm really just hoping someone understands my story and can be a good listening ear 

Mommyto5
Mommyto5
I know how you feel my husband was arrested for cp then later found out he sexually assaulted my daughter luckily he didn't rape her and secretly recorded my daughter in the restroom we have 2 kids that just want there father home he had a pornography addiction for many years I just didn't know to what extent I had a DCFS case open for over a year he walked away with 2 years probation he is attends classes for his addiction and is getting better But the damage is done what he did to my daughter's he can't take back and my marriage is broken Deep inside I do wanna work things out with him but then I think about my daughters And don't know what I want we will be attending counseling soon That doesn't mean I'm gonna go back with him it just means that I just want professional help to try to move on from this mess its hard
candyapplered
candyapplered
Your story sounds like mine. Dec 2020 I got that same knock saying my husband had been looking at CP. We had been married a year at that point. We are now on 3 years and we start court stuff in about a month.

I chose to stay despite my mother and her side of family saying I was crazy and that I should leave. The last 2 years have been difficult. Husband isn't welcome on that side. My dad's side is more welcoming but of course they are worried, as well. His family is welcoming.

I have supportive and not so supportive friends. But, I need someone who is going through it too. Who is staying too. I live in the US and in one of the cruelest states for SOs but I would love for you to reach out and be my person that we talk to about our struggles and what our healing looks like. Let me know if you would be interested.