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JustlovinJ1827 10/02/2017

Hey,

My husband was convicted before we met. His lawyers still say he was framed. And the countless probation officers he has dealt with all think he is innocent, which is crazy because we live in Alabma and that's like one of the worst places to be on this list. He was honest with me from the start of our relationship. We can't live together because I have kids from a prior marriage. So we go out separate ways each night and cherish every minute we have the next day. My family loves him, my dad treats him like his own son. My kids adore him and let me just say if I thought there were anything about him off putting I would have never dated him much less married him. But there seems to be an issue with what I used to call my friends. They got mad that I didn't blast his history to them, he doesn't want everyone to know and it's all available online so why run around proclaiming it? They called us liars and they screen shot his SO registry and sent it to several people, including my mom who politely responded with thanks but we know his story and we see no need for concern. Mind you this girl and I had a huge fall out and I cut her out of my life because of several dirty things she did to me and several other people and she did this well over 1 yr from my last interaction with her. Well I ended up cutting out a lot of people after they biblically humiliated us at an event. I guess just pissed off because if I don't have a problem being with him why do so many people feel so entitled to one? What gives them the right to do what they have done? He isn't bugging these people or even interacting with them. We literally go to work and spend our evenings with our family. And everyone is so quick to judge they don't even give him a chance. I'm just angry and bitter and hurt and I want them to reap what they sow. Thanks for reading. Needed to vent.

MyeyesonYOU 11/02/2017

I can relate to your situation. My husband was registered in 2015 for something he did back in 2002. He is currently a Tier 1 only did 5 months in Jail and will be done with probation soon. He had told his girlfriend back in 2012 about his ex-wife's niece who had a crush on him and how grateful he was that he didn't pursue it (at the time he was having marital problems) but that this girl would flirt with him and one time even went as far as sleeping on his bed topless so when he got home from work at 6am he saw her there and what does he do? touched her boobs and left. Well his girlfriend was a psycho from hell and cheated on him twice so my husband decided to leave her. Him and I have been friends since we were in diapers. We both went thru divorces together and we both had psycho relationships and when he broke it off with her, we got together and when she found out she gave him an ultimatum to go back with her or she would report that he molested a child. Of course he didn't go back to her and that is when the nightmare began. His ex created a facebook page (in which she had pics of him and wrote pedophile all over them) then she friend requested his friends and my friends (it was HORRIBLE), I had family and friends calling me... since he still didn't dump me, she then called my church pastors to tell them I was dating a sexual predator and that I should not be allowed to participate in my church since I was a bible school teacher for kids... I had to threaten her with the police... she was evil and well she contacted the local police department and reported him. When the investigator came around my husband told him the truth of what occurred. Even though the girl who is now about to turn 30 told the investigator she did not want to press charges and that she did have a crush they said sadly they still had to proceed because she was a minor and because the ex psycho kept calling the DA's office. My husband lost of all of his friends. Many just said "sorry man but I have kids" but it's like I told him, you will know who your true friends are when push comes to shove. He only has 2 guy friends who stuck by him. I have shared it with my boss, my family and closest of friends (2). My boss was kind enough to offer him work since he can't even find work on his own. It has been difficult. Florida is also the worse state for a SO. We are looking to move to another state hopefully.
What I can tell you is to hang in there. Focus on him and you. Don't surround yourself with negative people. The system for SO's has been set up to fail them but we need to be strong for them and for our children. We chose to put God first and little by little sure enough everything is falling into place. It is hard to vent to anyone about this because it is a touchy subject. I am glad to have found this website.
Praying for you guys.xoxo

JustlovinJ1827 11/02/2017

Wow! That is insane! The state shouldn't be allowed to press charges of someone says they didn't want to. I'm so sorry that happened to you guys. I agree, focus on each other and leave everyone else alone. Know your tribe. We will be praying for you guys too! Stay strong.

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