I am not in america so our sentances and charges are different, but my husband has been sentanced to home dentention, and 350hrs of community work, psychological evaluation and appropriate counselling or group therapy. 

His charge is indencent support of a familial female over 16. (His 18yr old daughter). 

I was at work as i work sleepover shifts, and he got into her bed. There was no prior 'grooming' or any prior incidences to this so it took her and i by utter surprise. He rubbed her stomach and touched her breast, and placed his hand on her pubic hair under her underwear. It didnt go any further and he claims to me and the police that he doesnt remember it happening and he only remembers her pushing him off the bed. 

She has moved home to her mums home as she was living with us, but had only been here since january the year prior (this happened back in february this year). She has been extremely depressed, and has attempted suicide about 4 weeks ago.

I truly dont know what to believe, and i feel guilty that he is still here but i want to support him. Yet other days i dont want to see him and try to imagine life with him gone. He is doing all the court has ordered, and is keeping himself busy with housework while i am at work. 

Anybody able to relate to this and how did you get your head and thoughts out of the fog?