Hi jfer.... this is a board for people who are looking for mutual support while dealing with a sex offender in their personal lives and families. It's not a place for prison penpal recruiting. Facebook has groups for that. Perhaps try there.

You say it like the dealing with the sex offender is a bad thing like they are the only person in need of support when a person in their life acts out in a way that people do not understand. The person that made a MISTAKE also needs support and sometimes our experiences make us the best person to offer certain individuals an empathetic ear. My friend is a sex offender and we both need people in our lives that are willing to talk openly and with out judgment. There is enough shame and guilt already attached to it, So my apologies if I misunderstood the the title and description.

"I say it like,.."

No, I did not say anything of the kind. This is not the appropriate board for penpal requests, and the fit you've just thrown is clearly not about my post, and it makes you look self-entitled. My spouse is facing a trial with no evidence against him, but he will probably be convicted anyway. Try your post on a forum seeking prison penpals (Your post did not state your friend is a convicted SO.) I guess you are entitled to post off-topic, when the rest of us are asked to follow the rules and guidelines for the board. Lucky you.

How exactly is it off topic ? Just so we are clear I am not entitled to shit, I have earned everything I have ever had, and lost it when I made choices that put me in this position. I am sorry if I didn't spell out in crayon that I was looking for support for me by helping my friend who is a SO, in the "Sex Offender in My Life Community Group" group As far as your husband goes, I am super sorry he is going through it and has a great wife still supporting him regardless of what they say he did. My wife stuck around for almost 2 years after, but in the end she left. I guess she was asa big of a liar as I turned out to be, "for better or worse" I guess the worse part wasn't easy enough,

I am sorry you are hurting, I get in now, when I was going through my stuff I was so scared about me and what I had done and who I had become that I forgot my wife was going through it to , she was just as alone, and scared and had all her friends abandon her for staying with me. I failed to see it until it was to late, So I am sorry for your hurt, I know it is so much that there are days it is overwhelming and you fill with doubt adn fear... its ok to be afraid, its ok to not whats in your heart, its ok to be angry at him. Innocent or guilty of the crime itself, he did something to get you here and it sucks