Sex Offender in My Life Community Group
This is a NONJUDGEMENTAL group for people who have a registered sex offender in their life. Whether you support this person, are angry, hurt, scared or have accepted the situation, we are here for you. This group is for the day to day trials and tribulations of living with a RSO in their family or having one as a friend. FORGIVENESS DOES NOT MEAN FORGETTING!
My hubby is serving 18 months for excepting a plea bargain on two counts of attempted sexual assault. It was/is a disgusting sad situation/claim. He had gotten very intoxicated and doesn’t know what happened or what is true. Despite that I know he deserves to be punished but what he’s received is a lifetime sentence of judgment and unfair humiliation. Is there anyone else who is had a similar situation with advice? He will have to register unfortunately and we have a one and a half-year-old daughter together. His other two older children love him dearly and have never had any issues before. We ended up excepting the plea bargain because they were threatening 6 to 12 years if we went to court. Makes me sick that the legal system can place you in a category and define an individual for their worst mistake without even being proven guilty! Anyway I’m done venting. Hope someone can provide some positive insight I’m so nervous about our future together with him having to register. Will we be able to buy a home? Will anyone want to sell to us? I know there are limitations on where you can live. And I already know some rental companies refuse to rent to sex offenders. I don’t understand how that’s fair or legal but I guess discrimination doesn’t matter when you’re an RSO which is bullshit! Every situation is unique and no I’m not supporting RSO individuals or devaluing/degrading victims of sexual assault but in my hubby’s case and many others the charges aren’t proven or even happened. OK I’m done I promise. God bless
He has to register ever 90 days.
Some apartment complexes won't rent to RSOs. But we haven't had a problem buying.
The biggest problem we have is employers shy away from RSOs. It's very had to find work.
And w kids (regardless of the alleged victims age) children services is likely to keep a close eye on the family.
In our state every time my husband has to register, it's published in the paper and online. So we often get threats of violence against him. None have ever been attempted though. We've been ask to leave churches and our kids have been kicked out of schools BC of his registration.
Sorry I wish I could tell you that it's easier. It's not. But it's not impossible either.
The hard days are the ones that stick out, but in reality the good days DO out number the bad.
You CAN get through this!!
conviction for a false accusation. It really is crazy how people can just say what ever w/o any proof at all, post it to social media. And ruin someone else's life .
I think, with internet ease, and children actively putting their own pictures online for attention, we are going to see more and more sex offenses and offenders.
Statistics show only the civilly committed continue to re-offend while all others do not typically, below 4%, and as the prosecution is prosecuting younger and younger folks...the bubble is about to break. I read an article recently about a 6 year old boy going to his 4th sexual predator treatment program for his most recent offense of kissing a classmate on the hand. All this in a world where strip clubs and explicit sex is on tv!
I am praying to God and I believe the persecution will stop. Sex offenders are folks who made a bad mistake, but are capable of learning and living better lives for God. I pray our leaders see this too!