So what happened?

I am going through the same thing. I have been with my husband for 8 years. He moved out immediately and plans to move into his new apartment next week. We talk frequently, but I know this means that the divorce is coming definitely and soon. I'm sorry that I cannot give you any advice because I feel like I'm falling apart right now and I don't know what to do about it.

Same here, except we had been married 20 years. He said he is moving out, but all his things are still in the house. He travels a lot with his job so i hardly see him anyways, but since last month i only see him like 3 days.
I don't know what to say to help you, I am also feeling lost and have no purpose in my life anymore. But i have passed my denial stage and just now begin to move things forward, i contacted a family lawyer and in the process of gathering papers.
I still cry everyday and i know it may go on for a long time. I don't want to blame myself this is happening, i have to start loving myself instead.

through a whole lot of reading I've found ways to cope as noted in some other replies i just posted

It looks like I came to the right place. 15 years of the second marriage for me. My wife and I have just now decided to file. I'm mad and done whining but know I'll suffer for a while. We both made mistakes. I came clean and made the effort. She accidentally admitted something two years later. I'd like to think my Christian beliefs could get me through it but you know What? I worked my butt off and I deserve better. I call feel the same uncertainty in other posts on here and suddenly feel at ease. Thank you.

I can relate. I never thought about, nor wanted, the single life. My co-worker tells me to go date, but I can't even think like that yet. I don't know if I ever will. Just want some good friends to spend time with.

I feel the same way they tell to go have fun. I feel like I need to get myself right first

It really has helped to get myself at least half right Torre. I'm not just sitting and staring for hours on end anymore and I can't imagine doing that to someone new. Then again I can't imagine someone new leekay. The public flirts are starting to feel better and I can now at least smile back but to actually approach a woman is hard. I'm not afraid but normal people don't have this dismal feeling inside and I just don't feel I can be myself.

Hello I’m new here me and my wife are separating we have been together for almost 9 years now and married for two. I feel very alone and scared.

I understand. I left in late September and have been married 36 years, its difficult on many levels

My husband of 12 years just agreed to a divorce and it hurts so bad. We have had such a wonderful life. We fight a lot but we have the most amazing family. I just can’t wrap my head around what this is going to mean for our kids.

I think everything posted here is normal. We all have regrets or questions about what went wrong, why didn't we see it sooner, how could we avoided this? The reality is we are here and we will get past it, it will take time. I suggest that if you can, get some kind of therapy,, talk to friends, stay busy do what you need to do to make yourself happy. I know I am trying to do all these things.