I think you have to use your heart. If you believe you did the right thing, God will be on your side.

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I too struggled with what God would think of me getting a divorce but with time I came to realize that as my father, God would want me to be safe, happy, and healthy. I don't believe that God wants us to be victims, I stayed with an abusive husband for 10 years. I finally left after an incident caused serious injury to me and I was even more afraid of my husband. I realized that if I stayed that my husband was capable of killing of me. Surely a loving father would not want their child to continue to live in that situation. I did do Christian counseling with my husband and am still to this day angered by what they told me. You see we both took one car to the appointments and one car back to the same home. How was I to tell them the extent of the abuse? I did tell them what I could and that he struggled with alcohol and anger. Well after trying to be brave and pouring my heart out I guess I must have went back in time because they were telling me to look attractive for my husband after he got home from a long day of work and not to bother him with the stresses of my day because he had enough on his plate. And to a man that often raped and hurt me, I should make myself more sexually available to him. How do you make yourself more sexually available to an abuser? Sorry I got off topic. I believe that God loves us and will never agree with anyone that he would want us to stay in an abusive relationship. He wants us to love ourselves, how can we do that if we allow others to treat us poorly. I hope you are well and that this helped a little bit.

Dear foundlove,

God is our Father. He does not want us to be abused. Your husband was not treating you as the Bible instructs husbands to treat their wives. "The Lord examines the righteous, but the wicked, those who love violence, he hates with a passion" Psalm 11:5. In essence, your ex-husband was already under judgment. I think leaving him was not a choice, but was a MUST. Nobody deserves to be treated that way. I divorced my husband because of emotional and mental abuse. He was also an alcoholic. I was so miserable I could not serve God the way I wanted to. My husband made it nearly impossible for me to go to church, have a job, or even have friends or family over. He cut me down in front of my kids and undermined me if I asked them to do chores.

I am a Christian. I will tell you that being a Christian is not a religion. It is a relationship with God. I advise you to read your Bible more and pray a lot. God will help you overcome your guilt and anxiety about getting a divorce. He loves you and wants to be there for you, but you need to be present with Him.

God also wants you to fulfill your potential and the plan He has for your life. I assure you He did not plan for you to be abused. I think you may have married without seeking God's wisdom and guidance first. I know that is exactly what I did. God would have never wanted me to marry the man. I thought I knew what I was doing. The devil is the great deceiver and leads many astray. You can get back on track. Seek God first in all things.

If you have a hard time reading the Bible every day, get a devotional. I have 3 of them and I am constantly amazed that the devotionals often speak directly to what I am experiencing in my life at the moment.

God Bless you,
Dandelion