I need to say positive affirmation ever day in the mirror. It hard to do and sometimes it sounds darn right stupid practice by telling you self you are an important person, you are strong, and sweet. So I am looking for a better list for me. I also keep a thick rubberband around a wrist. When ever I catch myself saying something bad about myself being anything negative. how you look or feelings, saying your not smart enough to get a job, or anything that puts you down. Take the rubberband pull it back and snap it. It suppose to sting that is what starts to train your brain though. You try to do small steps to be more positive about myself. Dress up for me. Get m hair done or something that I want. I try going to small places that I like. If you have a partner or family that are abusive by telling you are fat you do't do anything right, that you are a pig etc. Try to take steps to go to a therapist and talk about this. This abuse was something that started when I was a kid and I relaized my skinny mom had body dysmorphyia. If you can't get the men or women in your live to stop this negativity and it is such a struggle to do everything someone else wants perfect, i felt depressed and worthless because I never seemed to end. It took great courage to leave two years ago. I still don't have friends to go out with and that come over.I have chronic pain and not having a car. but I know I have changed, and will continue. I am still depressed but I continue to get of my butt and despite my more few phobias. God is not going to give up on me. I still will be me and I will still continue to try to figure out how to love myself. But that is the key. Love yourself flaws in all. You can't be in a relationship if you don't love your self. This is my ultimate beginning!