Relationship ER Community Group
This support group is for those who have been through a hard time due to a past relationship. The goal is for this group to be able to help those who are suffering to become emotionally healthy through the support of the group.
I broke up with my ex three weeks ago. I left him and moved back home which is an hour and a half from him. We were together 10 months, living together 4. When I moved in things became bad pretty quickly. There are two sides to every story, but from my point of view, he was very angry and controlling and I couldn't live like that anymore. I left three times, the first two I went to friends' houses for a few days and went right back to him. This time I actually made it back home.
The first week he was begging for me back every day, the second week he begged a a little but less than the first, I responded to him and told him that I didn't want to move back and I didn't know if we would get back together ever.
Well, then when he started to move on I flipped out. I couldn't handle it. I have been begging him for days to give me another chance. Yesterday he drove to my house and returned some clothing I left there, and I literally was on my knees begging for him back. We were intimate, which just made me even more upset afterwards. He said that at first he missed me but he realizes that with me gone he's more fun and he can go out and do what he wants, and he's used to single life now. ITS BEEN THREE WEEKS! I know that I am the one who left him, but I seem to be the only one hurting! If he ever really loved me he wouldn't move on that quickly! When I was begging for him back he said I could move back in with him and be with him but long distance is not something he wants to do. As much as I want him back, I know in my head that moving back there isn't in my best interest. I don't feel like I can go on without him and I don't understand how he could move on so quickly. HELP! I need advice badly.
The first week he was begging for me back every day, the second week he begged a a little but less than the first, I responded to him and told him that I didn't want to move back and I didn't know if we would get back together ever.
Well, then when he started to move on I flipped out. I couldn't handle it. I have been begging him for days to give me another chance. Yesterday he drove to my house and returned some clothing I left there, and I literally was on my knees begging for him back. We were intimate, which just made me even more upset afterwards. He said that at first he missed me but he realizes that with me gone he's more fun and he can go out and do what he wants, and he's used to single life now. ITS BEEN THREE WEEKS! I know that I am the one who left him, but I seem to be the only one hurting! If he ever really loved me he wouldn't move on that quickly! When I was begging for him back he said I could move back in with him and be with him but long distance is not something he wants to do. As much as I want him back, I know in my head that moving back there isn't in my best interest. I don't feel like I can go on without him and I don't understand how he could move on so quickly. HELP! I need advice badly.
It's going to be hard, I wish I had some advice I could give you and that it would help. Everyone just keeps telling me to move on and I will be better without him, but right now I don't feel that way. It's important to have people to talk to though. Hopefully your friends and family are supporting you. The most important thing is to be honest with yourself about why the relationship ended, and why you want to get back with him. Being honest with yourself is really hard. If you are honest with yourself though, in time you will be able to move on.
I am reading lots of self help books, which is easy to read, but applying is harder. All You can do is take each day at time. There is no time limit for getting over anyone you think or feel you love for whatever reasons. It happens for everyone differently. But I do agree it is very hard to let go of someone you love and gave so much time of your life too. hang in there! I do know how you feel.