Rebuilding Marriage After Infidelity Community Group
A community for those who have been through the heartbreak of infidelity and decided to stay with their partner and try to re-build the relationship.
OW has tried to stay in contact with H, intermittently since D-Day. She texts, emails, sends an invite to chat -- he always shows them to me but never responds to her.
Then she went on a wild streak after getting his new number (he had changed his number but she got it from a mututal friend who doesn't know about the A) - and she called him ten times in one day "you have to call me back", "I know that I'm stalking you", "Call me in the next hour...or else". So we had called her back with both of us of the line and he told her in no uncertain terms to get lost, lose his number, stop emailing -- that she never meant anything to him and that it the A was nothing but a huge mistake.
She emailed him again ten minutes after the call. He changed that email address.
I called her mom after she had emailed again to say tell your daughter to stop it or we will file for a restraining order. She hears about it from her mom -- then calls and leaves H a message that she's getting a restraining order on me! Ha! Based on what? What an f-ing loser, I mean seriously.
And she leaves on the voice mail "And just so you know, I rejected his advances for months before I gave in to him - I never wanted to sleep with a marrried man - but he just wouldn't give up, he wanted me so bad".
Lovely girl!!!
And I know that's not true because they only knew each other two weeks before the A started.
The whole thing is EEEEWwwwwwwwwwww. Why do the ones we love DRAG US INTO THEIR DIRTY MUD? Yuck.
Then she went on a wild streak after getting his new number (he had changed his number but she got it from a mututal friend who doesn't know about the A) - and she called him ten times in one day "you have to call me back", "I know that I'm stalking you", "Call me in the next hour...or else". So we had called her back with both of us of the line and he told her in no uncertain terms to get lost, lose his number, stop emailing -- that she never meant anything to him and that it the A was nothing but a huge mistake.
She emailed him again ten minutes after the call. He changed that email address.
I called her mom after she had emailed again to say tell your daughter to stop it or we will file for a restraining order. She hears about it from her mom -- then calls and leaves H a message that she's getting a restraining order on me! Ha! Based on what? What an f-ing loser, I mean seriously.
And she leaves on the voice mail "And just so you know, I rejected his advances for months before I gave in to him - I never wanted to sleep with a marrried man - but he just wouldn't give up, he wanted me so bad".
Lovely girl!!!
And I know that's not true because they only knew each other two weeks before the A started.
The whole thing is EEEEWwwwwwwwwwww. Why do the ones we love DRAG US INTO THEIR DIRTY MUD? Yuck.
Well...DUH...because a nice pretty smart girl, with loads of friends and people who love her, LIKE ME...wouldn't sleep with a married man!
FYI - been there on the restraining order...we got one against her and then she did attempt to get one on each of us...however the judge denied it...and of course we got ours...keep everything...these woman will do anything to win something they will never have...
Hugs - tweedsie
I think, no way, why do I need to call her? It's only more drama. Even reading the email made me feel sick.
Email back or just ignore? I think ignore is the best plan - but it's hard not to want to lash back.
Thoughts?
It is so hard to hear him talk about it.
He says "I felt like a loser and I felt like you were too good for me, and I didn't deserve you. And I went and found somebody with lower self esteem than I had, not smart in any way, with less friends than I had, practically no life of her own, because then I felt better about myself. Compared to her I felt smart, successful, popular. Because she had NOTHING going on, she was always calling/texting paying attention to me and only me - and always available when I had ANY free time at all. If I said I only had a half hour, she would beg me to come over and just give me oral sex and then I would leave right away."
Pathetic!!!!
The opposite of love is NOT hate...it's indifference...
Hugs,
Morgan