Rebuilding Marriage After Infidelity Community Group
A community for those who have been through the heartbreak of infidelity and decided to stay with their partner and try to re-build the relationship.
Things have been going really well w my H. However, this year has been soooooo tough. Dday was 9 mnths ago, we had a miscarriage in august and I just had a second miscarriage one week ago. I know my hormones are all over the place, just having a really hard time grounding myself tonight. H has been going through intense counseling dealing w childhood trauma. The holidays are a really difficult time for him. Usually I am ok supporting him through this, but after his session today he realized how much the miscarriage is affecting him. He is also freaked out to go home for the holidays bc it will be the first time he has to face my parents since the A. On top of it our good friends found out the same day we did that they are pregnant. I know my thoughts are a bit scattered here, just a lot going on. I am so devastated, and having a hard time not feeling guilt about the loss and feeling horrible I am making this time of year even more difficult. I know that I should not feel this way, but I do. Wish I could snap out of this funk and I wish my H could be happy too. The holidays are not easy
the holidays are what we choose to make of them! Yes, your hormones are all over the place. Time will fix that. We experienced something similar 10 years ago. We tried retreating to each other. It's a good time for a "me and you against the world" attitude. Pledge to be there for each other. Take time out together from the festivities to feel your pain and share it. Concentrate on each other as you are both hurting. But try to schedule some hurting time so you can let go of those feelings and enjoy the Holidays when you allow yourselves to. Compartmentalization can be good!