Hi folks. Been a while since I've been on here, but thought I would check in. Been seven years since DDay (almost, will be seven on May 11). We are doing well. Actually, life has pretty much by this point gone back to "normal". Though not totally, as some of the changes we've made in the beginning are still in place. But she recently had a milestone. After seven years, she was finally released from her pentence that she'd been under. Actually, 7 years is the canonically prescribed time for a pentence for adultry.
Anyway, we are doing well. We still love each other, and feel pretty sure, as sure as can be had, that the ordeal is over and in the past. She remains on guard, and she's been tested. As recently as this past week. Out of the blue, after almost 6 years of silence, the AP calls her up. He actually gave her the line that he wanted her to come clean his house (she does that for a living). She simply said, "You know I can't do that." That's pretty much all she said. We both think he was doing a check, hoping things had changed. He found out it hadn't, and that she had no desire to be with him. Truth be told, if I was to die tomorrow, I don't think she would seriously conside him. She is at the point where she looks back on those days in disbelief. She doesn't even recognize that person she was back then. Strange, as that is what I thought at the time, that I didn't know her.
At any rate, thought you might appreciate knowing how we are doing for those still on here who knew us, and where we are today.
On my Parkinson's situation, I've had DBS (Deep Brain Stimulation) surgery back in Sept. 29, and it was largely successful. Which is why I can still type well at this point. (Yay!) So on that front, things are pretty good. I've actually expanded her house cleaning service by starting a window washing "divison" of the company. Which has slowly been growing.
Hope all here are doing well. Though I know not all will be, otherwise, most of us wouldn't be here, now would we? But it is satisfying to look back on those first days and realize just how far we've come in seven years. Where we are today looked so far away from that end of the journey. I'm thankful that in my case, at least, it turned out well. I only wish I could wave a magic wand and give everyone here the same blessing.
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