Hey chewdy, I've felt the same way. It's very hard when you have to let them go to that workplace where it all went down. My H also worked with the OW.

Have you set up any check and balances? Is he going to call you throughout the day to let you know how he's feeling with his back surgery and all? Can you call him there? Can you e-mail him or vice versa? Did you tell him that you expect him to tell you if the OW made any appearance or talked to him? That was a huge one for me.

IMO, it's important to back up with actions what they are saying about working it out. Nothing can be too hard when it comes to rebuilding your marriage.

I've been there and remember those feelings very well. I'll be praying for you and also for your H...that he remembers his priorities and puts you and your marriage above anything else.

He has called me and emailed me a few times today, he is a supervisor and had alot of things to take care of ( he showed me his emails several times) . It still is just very difficult to get thru the day.

Of course it's going to be hard. Stay strong for your self.
Him contacting you though out the day is a good sign, If he is trying to rebuild and is remorseful he'll let ya know if she said anything to him.

Hang in there.