I keep mine a secret, cause hubby tells me that misery loves company. he doesn't understand that it helps me to talk to other ppl that know how I feel. Sometimes I think he wants to keep me in soltairy. Like he doesn't want me talking about what he did!

I've sent him excerpts of my journal and some threads. Sometimes people on here just say it so much better than I ever could. I think we lose a knack for articulation when we want to rip someone's head off. LOL

Mine knows I am on here and journal. I may at some point suggest that he read it. But it's more for my therapy.
If he logged on he could easily find which is me, afterall it is he that calls me BC

I haven't had my H read anything I've written. He knows I come here. He has asked me if I ever post anything. I told him yes and that was all we talked about. Right now I don't want him to read anything, I feel like this is for me. The rest of my time and energy is spent on him and the kids and working on our marriage. Right now I want to be selfish and have DS for myself. He did tell me he has looked at what I'm doing on here at times. We have both our computers sat up right next to each other, I read over his shoulder all the time too so that doesn't bother me. He made a comment about the mood indicator and that it changes sometimes. I think it made him feel bad.

I use this site as therapy and support so I don't share with H. He doesn't like reading other people's journals. I do share some of the info I get here with him. he could if he wanted to find me because he knows what site this but he doesn't.

No, but I would have no problem with it if he did. We're at the stage where he really wants to have all of this behind us, and will talk if I bring it up but otherwise is happy to avoid it. I still need to talk and talk and talk about it to get it behind me. : )

I think I've gotten all the answers he has to give, so the rest I need to do on my own. I've been a lot happier since fining the Rebuilding group and it's had a huge impact on our day-to-day life.

I am always sending my husband something someone said on DS. Thye say exactly what I am feeling and it makes me feel better to see there are other people riding on the crazy train. I send it so he knows it also. Beach you talk about being addicted. I tried to stay off for a few days but needed to come back on for the support. Even when I don't post I still need to read.......

I let my wife know that I was here and then gave her my information, so she can read anything I have posted, including my messages. I have deleted a few from 4-6 months ago, I told one of my friends about them and they said they were scammers, 3 to be exact. All 3 said they were lonely and wanted to get aquainted and all were young enough to be my daughter, I guess the age doesn't matter I was and am not interested. I told them I was here to rebuild my marriage and then told my wife she read one then I deleted messages.

There is one thing to add. My wife (also a member) replied to another site, she said she had nothing to hide from me, but did not want to share at this time.

I asked her if she wanted me to close my account here so she could be free to post and reply and she said no that I could stay on here.

I take it your wife is on SI? I lurk there but my H actually posts there.

Holy Moley, I've been here 3 yrs and never heard of SI, what site is that?

I'm sorry, I should have said she replied to a post in another group here at DS.

I have shown my h mine and have cut and paste a few. I have even asked my h questions about HIS take on a situation, like say when a BS posts about something her h is doing and is wanting to know what she can do or say to make him understand how she is feeling.... I dont as much now as I use to. But I keep it open to him. As most of you know, I dont get around alot and am confined to bed alot. My laptop is here and on a tray that rolls and the tray goes across my lap. Very similar to a hospital tray. So when he comes in the bedroom and lays down with me to watch TV he can see pretty clearly what I am doing. I doubt he can actually read it since at our age our vision isnt what it use to be. But it is definitely available to him and I do read it to him.

I would also like to know what SI is.

I have printed things out for him to read. Sometimes I think that if he hears certain things coming from someone else, then he will believe it. I guess now I don't feel like he gives that much of a genuine crap about my opinion, or he wouldn't have done this at all. (logically, I know that's not the case.) Whatev. I'd let him read my stuff.