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My H is currently overseas with the Army (has been gone over a month now) and the night before part of his leadership/superiors made it there. One of them was the supervisor that I talked to about his "friendship" with OW. When he saw my H he said "So have you been good?" My H got upset cause he asked him that in front of his soldiers. H calls me all upset, complaining about him, wishing I hadn't told him anything, have I talked to him again and on and on. Conversation was ackward and he was distant. I was hurt by his reaction and distance but now I'm fuc**** pissed off!!!!! He is blaming me for talking to supervisor and now supervisor is on to him and watching him closely. Trying to make me feel guilty for outing him out and now his business is out in the public...WTF?!!!! He brought this mess to himself, I wasnt the one talking to OW or calling, texting and emailing her. I'm not guilty of anything!!! I'm so upset!!
Earlier during the day I have email him asking for his secret email password, the email he used to communicate with OW, and he emailed me back telling me that he don't see the need for it, that he told me what was said and that he deleted the emails anyways. That was just like hot coals thrown in the fire!!! WTF? He wants me to believe his lying ass!!!??? If he don't have nothing to hide why can't I look at that email account just to make sure that the emails were really deleted it and that there is really NC? Agghhhhh.....I'm so angry and dissapointed!!!
I feel like throwing in the towel, I wonder is it worth it, I feel tired, defeated, like I can go no more. I don't know how to make him understand. Right now I dont even want to talk to him cause I'm so fuc*** upset and angry!!!! I don't want to explode on his face cause I will say things that will sent us back to the beginning. Am I been irrational? or acting paranoid?
Earlier during the day I have email him asking for his secret email password, the email he used to communicate with OW, and he emailed me back telling me that he don't see the need for it, that he told me what was said and that he deleted the emails anyways. That was just like hot coals thrown in the fire!!! WTF? He wants me to believe his lying ass!!!??? If he don't have nothing to hide why can't I look at that email account just to make sure that the emails were really deleted it and that there is really NC? Agghhhhh.....I'm so angry and dissapointed!!!
I feel like throwing in the towel, I wonder is it worth it, I feel tired, defeated, like I can go no more. I don't know how to make him understand. Right now I dont even want to talk to him cause I'm so fuc*** upset and angry!!!! I don't want to explode on his face cause I will say things that will sent us back to the beginning. Am I been irrational? or acting paranoid?
PS Irrational? Paranoid? I say you're human.
Try to stay calm. I have a weird suggestion. If you know the secret email account, do a search on it in www.pipl.com. If he used it for any purpose on the internet, like FB or Myspace, it'll show up. If so, you can then see his postings, or at least some of them. Maybe that would give you a clearer picture if he's hiding activity. Sorry you have to deal with this. Hugs.
I have thouhght about what you said, about the OW still trying to communicate with with and it makes me mad cause it seems like he is trying to protect her cause he knows I will reap her apart. I will go the other route, if he don't want me to see if I will ask him to delete the account.
I to have been riding the waves of emotions for the past month and would really like to see some effort come my way that would help to level the emotions out.
PS. He says I'm sneaky and Inspector Gadget so he knows I will make sure he does.