I'm here, y'all.  You newbies won't know me, so I'll give a quick intro:

My husband of 16 years had a workplace affair.  It was an emotional and physical affair.  Day of discovery was, oh gosh, was it the 4th or 5th of December, 2010?  I don't even remember, anymore!  Holidays were rough for a while, but now it's a complete non-issue.  Life is good and if things get crazy in December, it's because of the usual stuff: weather, family, cultural expectations, etc.

We used the Marriage Builders system to rebuild our marriage, and while I do recommend it to many, it is only *one* system of recover, not *the* system.  Everyone needs to take their own path and decide what is best for them.  There are some standard recommendations that I think people should follow, but whatever YOU do, it'll be right for YOU and your family/circumstances.

Just putting my name on the forum in case people want to message me privately or just be reassured that whatever you're going through, it's only right now.  Things DO get better.  Maybe not in the way you thought, but they DO get better. 

I would never say "welcome to the club" because infidelity is an awful, miserable club to be in, but I will say that there is hope and there is life after infidelity.

xoxo