It has been 3 years and I really want to believe that life has changed for the better. There are always little things that happen that make me wonder. Husband still works at the same place where the EA occured however he claims there is no contact.Recently in April husband was in a race with another male coworker and the pictures were posted on the company's facebook page. I don't have facebook , but I looked at the picture and I see the OW made a comment that she liked the pic and said congradualtions. That caught my interest and I wanted to know why she still had to be in his business. He is not a facebook person either and said he didn't know why. Now which brings me up to this past weekend , we were in a golf tournment , that we are always in every year. The next day I looked at his phone and there was a message sent out to a person in his phone that said " I need two lips now" . I called the number and it is listed to a guy that he just hired at work. I found out all this information prior to asking what the heck this message was. He clearly said that it was a new person named Tom that he just hired and he has not ideal how that text got sent. The thing about it is that I was with him the whole entire day at the golf tournament and he was not texting. I do not have any feelings in my gut , like I have in the past. For the past three years he has been very into out marrage and making up for the past mistake. One thing that I have been waiting years to do ( as suggested by the counselor) was to ask him to open his work email. Well this week I did and he refused!. So, this really makes me think he is hiding something and I am really bothered by this whole thing. This is my secound marriage and I have been through a divorce once and seen the effcts on my three grown daughters. We have a daughter together and all our friends think we are the most loving couple. I'm crushed and it just feels like every time I feel safe , there is a interuption in that feeling. I have beeen on the phone calling the verizon company and it is possible that someone can send a message and interup the texting. My H said that he is going to get rid of the texting and he does not want to go throught what we went through three years ago. He claims he loves me and our daughter more than anythin gin the world and would never jepordize that ever again. Help my friends???? Pleas elet me know what everones thoughts are? I have occassional made up a fake name and looked on the OW FB page and I sometimes wonder if she can tell that I have looked? can't wait to hear back from some of you.