Positive Attitude for Anxious People Community Group
Learning to develope a positive attitude, talking about positive things in our lives and the world.
I'm finding it hard to be positive. I want to scream. Moms choises make life harder for me sometimes. She is rigid and wont listen to anyone. My husband is just going to get angry with me. When I explain to him. He will say make her do things. It doesnt matter what she wants. She is in her right mind. And I cant make her do anything. Even if she is being emotional and not sensable.
Barbara
Barbara
I was talking to a friend of mine about this subject t just a little while ago (checking out the window for a full moon....I think there is one this weekend).
I have tried to be a very good daughter despite my mom really doesn't want me....she never has. She is mean spirited, hurtful, angry, and self righteous that has a broken filter. I always fry the wrong egg so to speak.....so now I just leave her to her own devices. I cut my visits to once a week with her.....and this week I am not visiting her at all.
I guess that it the best advice I can give. Know you are a good daughter with a full plate. You are doing the best you can. Make sure your mom is safe (get her some groceries......ask a friend or neighbor to check on her) and go on your much needed vacation.....even if it's just for a few days.
I took my mom on a long weekend to visit her one "crazy" sister (she and all her sisters are nuts) and I got my own hotel room just to get away from them!!!!
I know how hard it is to get sucked into the drama and negativity....I'm right there with ya!
I just go home and put my head phones on and listen to some relaxation music and subliminal positive messages masked with music from youtube.
Do whatever you have to....get a hobby (I garden and make fairy gardens in small containers for friends).
I listen to a lot of Abraham Hicks Law of Attraction Youtube clips to find positive things in my life.
I do gratitude rants in the morning (I look for things to be grateful for....it's hard when you hang around negative peeps). Can you join a yoga or meditation group in your area?
Just know you are not alone. Take time for you with out feeling guilty. If mom wants to wallow in negativity....let her do it alone or with some other negative person.
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