I am an avid sufferer of PMDD and I go through it every single month before my period. I ABUSE my boyfriend with vicious outbursts of rage for no reason. I sometimes think I am not in love with him anymore, or that he doesnt love me.. or that I dont deserve love. I CRY over EVERYTHING and Its the most horrific thing to experience and for others involved. I really don't have answers for you, other than to NOT take any of her words or actions personal, because its really not.. as hard as that may be to do and believe. I also take xanax around that time when im really bad. It really does warp a womans mind and sends us into a out of control spiral into hell lol its not funny, but I feel yours and her pain. I wish there was a cure! The best advice I can give, is understand that its REAL and shes not just making it up. Sometimes my boyfriend gets so fed up that he thinks im just using PMDD as an excuse as to why I act crazy, and it pisses me off more than anything. Its real, its horrible, but just try to do your best to support her without having her want to rip your head off ;) cheers and good luck!

Yes, that sounds like a lot of what she does as well. She always tells me not to take anything personally...I try not to, but it's hard not to. She ignores me for days, seems like forever. I am an EXTREMELY patient man, and she does push me to the limits all the time. I've never been in love with a woman as much as her, even with all the things go I put up with, she puts up with a lot also, don't get me wrong, I'm not perfect. I've never been with someone I've had to, at times, walk on eggshells.
How does your boyfriend deal with the mood swings? I want to marry her, and know that once she goes through menopause, all will be good. Is that true?

my boyfriend actually doesn't deal well with the mood swings. And we fight NASTILY around that time of the month. He takes it too personal and honestly, how can you NOT? I don't blame you guys believe me! That's actually the term he uses all the time "walking on egg shells" around me.

And it makes me feel so bad. Because I can't imagine what that's like. I only can tell you how it feels for a woman in this position...
And I also want to clarify that when I say "it's real" I meant to say that the PMDD making a woman's thoughts so out of whack that she may also feel what she is thinking is true, when its NOT. the SYMPTOMS are real.
I don't want you to misinterpret what I was saying and then have you think that she really doesn't love you when she's in that mindset. Because that's not true. When the storm calms, we KNOW we weren't in our right minds and not thinking clearly. Then everything we were thinking and feeling goes away. Its horrible. Even more so when you are so inlove with someone who suffers with something so serious.
Because you feel like you are in the wrong, even when you are not.
I take xanax when its really bad. Does she have any sedatives for it? She should have something for it.
Hang in there, I know it seems impossible.
Im only 26 not really sure what happens with PMDD and menopause, so that could be true. But menopause is honestly a whole different beast and I hear thats no picnic either.
Ahhh women, eh?

Omg!!! my gf has it too everything you said is exactly the same for me. sometimes the things she says and the time she spends purposely staying away from me makes me feel as if she's cheating. I hate pmdd with a passion lol. Ive been actively trying to find solution. Ive been with her for 2 1/2 years and for 2 of those years we had no idea it was pmdd until she mentioned that her dad thinks she has severe pms. I started doing a TON of research, came across pmdd, and started keepin track on a women's log to catch the pattern. Once I was absolutely sure after reading men and women stories I brought it to her attention and she HATED that she felt I was "diagnosing her and making it seem like our arguments are all her fault. Although it was tough I got her to go see an OBGYN and she told her that she believes she has PMDD. Now she is a little more open about it but at times still thinks I blame everything on PMDD. Now I am trying to think of what the next step should be. She now admits she is scared of what doctors will say so she has been letting me just handle everything. I was thinking of having her do some blood work to check her hormone levels. what do you guys think?

Also have any of you women tried an herb called Vitex Agnus-Castus and if so has it helped you with PMDD?

I also read that Indole-3-Carbinol helps as well, please let me know if any of you have has any experience with this one as well.