parents of sexually abused children Community Group

This group is to help parents of sexually abused children. While our children's needs always come first, we forget that we need help too. This group is here to help. I myself have children who is victims of sexual abuse and struggle daily, with it. Please join to help support one another.

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Mother of 3 sexually abused children

akw741
akw741

My sister passed away in 2004, I had just given birth to my first daughter and started the process of raising her two children 8 and 3 alongside my parents. I gave birth to my autistic/bipolar/schizophrenic child in 2006. My nephew raped and molested my then 5 year old daughter (he was 8 at the time) and I went to DHS and sought Counciling for my oldest daughter. Last year I found out my then 10 year old daughter was being molested by my nephew who was 16 and I pressed charges. He went to juvenile prison in October.  In December my then 5 and now 6 year old son disclosed that he was being sodomized by my nephew while at my parents house (I moved out of my parents house 4 1/2 years ago now that the children were older and my care wasn’t needed as much. I am also going through so many emotions I can’t breathe, my heart races, I have problems sleeping, I’m every emotion there is, I am in Counciling and am being told to beat a pillow, a tree, anything...I can’t bring myself to beat something that isn’t alive and has zero feelings, I’m not a violent person!!!! I am also dealing with my parents supporting my nephew through this and I have strict boundaries to never ever see or be around my nephew again!!!!! I feel guilt about my son being in a helpless situation and not having someone to protect him!!!! 

Momabearx10
Momabearx10
Im so sorry for all ypu have gone through and your children. Mosac.net is a good resource for you. Im glad ur in counseling. You'll find support here. Hugs.
akw741
akw741
That was the first site I was referred to while talking to a friend. Thank you for support and writing back. I don’t feel so alone in this process
CasMac1
CasMac1
wow that's amazing, I am not sure how your coping. I had one child sexually molested and I lost it. All I can say is get good counselling go to support groups for abused kids. This is a good place for support. I used to crying a pillow at night , unfortunately I took it out on myself and started cutting and beating myself. Because I felt so unworthy as a mother. it's 30years and still bothers me but I have been able to write a book. I suggest journal or get some paints and paint whatever your feelings are. Were here for you sending love and support casey
bipolargoddess
bipolargoddess
My daughter told me about my own MOTHER molesting her. No one believes me because I’m bipolar. My family won’t talk to me. By the way my daughter just turned four. I am so scared and can’t trust anyone. There were red flags, but the thought of my daughter being hurt by my mom NEVER crossed my mind. She will not take a lie detector test. I think my stepdad did something too. The police are not investigating so I keep calling. She has said things no child should. I really want to beat my mom’s ass, but of I need to be responsible and not get that on my record. Please help
Momabearx10
Momabearx10
Bipolargoddess, is she in therapy? Have u took her to her Pediatrician? Here they are mandated reporters. Maybe coming from them might help? Im sorry you are having a hard time.
TToHeal
TToHeal
Im so sorry for your pain! I can relate. I also had three of my children molested by a cousin who is mentally challenged. They were all under the age of 5 when this happened at my aunt's house. My aunt was looking after my grandma in another state and we would go to visit and it happened at those times right under my nose basically. I did not find out till 10 years later! The damage had already been done and all those years I did not know and we continued to visit!
It was disclosed to me in pieces. My daughter was 15 when it became clear what happened and eventually my two other daughters disclosed that the same happened to them! I immediately put them in therapy but it has damaged not only my girls but our family dynamics. I keep working on trusting God to redeem the whole thing. I can't say we've come through this thing. My daughters still live with the effects and so do I, but I know it could be even worse so I am grateful for that.
Janewithstrenght
Janewithstrenght
.im very sorry. Keep seeking therpy fir your lil guy. I've been though sAme. Now my lil ones have stories.
Moonbeam31
Moonbeam31
It’s not your fault the abused occurred. Sexual predators are very sneaky. We were devastated after my daughter disclosed 2 years ago. It does change extended family dynamics. I have decided I am ok with the change because I don’t want to be around people that are ok with child abuse. I have found the passage of time along with therapy has helped the intense overwhelming emotions we felt in the beginning.