parents of sexually abused children Community Group

This group is to help parents of sexually abused children. While our children's needs always come first, we forget that we need help too. This group is here to help. I myself have children who is victims of sexual abuse and struggle daily, with it. Please join to help support one another.

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Daughter5 08/31/2017

I'm having a hard time learning how to discipline my daughter. last year when she came back from her biological father's visit that he had been sexually abusing her along with physical abuse. She is in counseling once a week and it's going great problem with her not listening and following directions I'm unsure if it's her age she is now 6 for what it is but I have to constantly repeat myself and when I do get on her for anything she just has a blank look on her face like it's she doesn't care can anyone tell me if this is normal for a child who is dealing with a traumatic event?

hopefulmama 09/11/2017

https://www.dailystrength.org/group/parents-whose-children-have-been-sexually-abused,this group is very active,please join us

strongmom9 10/19/2017

Yes! This is a very common behavior in children who are dealing with a trauma. I know this is so challenging! My son just turned 7 and disclosed to me last February. I had a gut feeling that something happened to him, sexually for about 2 years prior to his disclosure. I have been working with someone who could help educate me in how to respond during those times. Another thing that has helped for me is to keep a timeline of events that would help me recognize triggers of the sexual trauma. When I began to understand the pain he was experiencing and what his triggers were, I could then mentally prepare myself to remain calm and walk through it with him in the most loving, supportive and safe way. We are finally getting past the anger and aggression. I want to provide you with some hope and can shed more light on some tips of how to cope with this part of the process if you would like. Hang in there

linAjjj 11/04/2017

There is evidence that children can become narsstistic if you spoil them after a traumatic experience. Try giving her choices you can Clean your room or you can go to bed without device. Stick to it it one gives her choices and control something that was robbed from her and she is in fact responsible for outcome. It won’t be easy it will take two weeks . And sometimes they will fight back not stay in bed well then you will loose a toy or go to bed. If resistance Take one at a time she can earn them back but she will have to earn she may not seem to care but she has learned to discredit response. I am no professional I just was taught to give them choices

Momabearx10 03/28/2018

Yep. So far taking away the favorite things work for me right now.. ive thought about a behavior chart, reward for so many days of listening etc. idk

Momabearx10 03/28/2018

Yep. So far taking away the favorite things work for me right now.. ive thought about a behavior chart, reward for so many days of listening etc. idk

heartsadx3 04/28/2018

Parent Child Interactive Therapy will take care of the discipline part (PCIT)

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