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Lightedpath
I just wanted to share with everyone the news.
I found my lost daughter.
My daughter was born ADD
I researched what that means.
It means that they are born to mother`s who are high lead and probably low zinc.
ADD is associated with Low Dopamine.
My low dopamine daughter was doing relatively well UNTIL someone advised her to go on the pill.
An average woman might be expected to get depression while on the pill because:
Contraceptive Pills deplete B6 and suppress Tyrosine.
Tyrosine is the building block of Dopamine.
After a few months on pills, my daughter`s brain became depleted of dopamine.
A massive disruption of Dopamine causes Psychosis.
If anyone wants the recipe for Helter - Skelter, this is it.
My daughter walked in one day with the intent of annihilating me. I saw in her, a cold blooded assassin. Her laugh was diabolical, it sounded like the devil.
Dopamine deficiencies result in
Anhedonia
Inability to feel love, feel connected
Lack of remorse about actions
Distractability
The doctor should have prescribed my daughter nutrients to offset the depletion of tyrosine but he didn`t.
My daughter`s brain chemistry became unbalanced.
The once beautiful gentle loving daughter I knew and so loved is today an angry Narcissistic Sociopath who is Scapegoating me and treating me to a Smear Campaign because she either refuses to or is unable to face her authentic Self. When there is no dopamine, there is no YOU, there is only ME.
My daughter`s loving soul is departed. Her brain chemistry is unbalanced. I can`t bring her back with love because she doesn`t respond to love. Narcissists rewrite History to suit their own narratives. Even when I showed her the love letters she used to write me at age 18, she now responds: I didn`t realize at the time that I was being abused.
I call it brain damage
Narcissism is a self stimulating behavior. It causes Dopamine surges. In this way Narcissism nourishes a deprived brain. Narcissism is a drug, it`s also a personality disorder. Personality disorders are difficult to change.
You could say I`m grieving the death of my still living daughter.
I found my lost daughter.
My daughter was born ADD
I researched what that means.
It means that they are born to mother`s who are high lead and probably low zinc.
ADD is associated with Low Dopamine.
My low dopamine daughter was doing relatively well UNTIL someone advised her to go on the pill.
An average woman might be expected to get depression while on the pill because:
Contraceptive Pills deplete B6 and suppress Tyrosine.
Tyrosine is the building block of Dopamine.
After a few months on pills, my daughter`s brain became depleted of dopamine.
A massive disruption of Dopamine causes Psychosis.
If anyone wants the recipe for Helter - Skelter, this is it.
My daughter walked in one day with the intent of annihilating me. I saw in her, a cold blooded assassin. Her laugh was diabolical, it sounded like the devil.
Dopamine deficiencies result in
Anhedonia
Inability to feel love, feel connected
Lack of remorse about actions
Distractability
The doctor should have prescribed my daughter nutrients to offset the depletion of tyrosine but he didn`t.
My daughter`s brain chemistry became unbalanced.
The once beautiful gentle loving daughter I knew and so loved is today an angry Narcissistic Sociopath who is Scapegoating me and treating me to a Smear Campaign because she either refuses to or is unable to face her authentic Self. When there is no dopamine, there is no YOU, there is only ME.
My daughter`s loving soul is departed. Her brain chemistry is unbalanced. I can`t bring her back with love because she doesn`t respond to love. Narcissists rewrite History to suit their own narratives. Even when I showed her the love letters she used to write me at age 18, she now responds: I didn`t realize at the time that I was being abused.
I call it brain damage
Narcissism is a self stimulating behavior. It causes Dopamine surges. In this way Narcissism nourishes a deprived brain. Narcissism is a drug, it`s also a personality disorder. Personality disorders are difficult to change.
You could say I`m grieving the death of my still living daughter.
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Hi lightedpath, I have just read your post, you words hit a strong cord with me, Narcissists do re write events and history I believe as a coping strategy as it requires a lot of strength and work to stand up and take ownership of your own failings and try and do something positive about them, but as you know only to well, if the other person is unable to see that they have to take a long hard look at themselves as well then our hands as the estranged parent are tied and we go round in an ever decreasing circle trying to think of ways of righting something which we are not totally to blame for, because we love and miss them more than words can express. I have only been estranged from my 18 yr old daughter for 10 weeks, it feels like a life time, you probably do not need me to tell you the unbelievable pain and sorrow we experience as estranged parents, I to found a mothers day card my ED wrote to last March 2012, I nearly wanted to send her a photo copy to her ask how can you go to this declaration of love and gratitude to me to now posting on facebook sites how much you hate me , and that I am completely mentally unwell and unstable, but that's the thing, reality will always be what they choose it be, we can not effect it, I see a therapist weekly , it helps get things clear in my mind and take ownership for my faults and failings, we are all only human after all, I have also started reading books on Mindfulness, worth checking out , it is helping, we can not change others behaviour or beliefs but we can try to make ourselves my able to deal with a really tough situation and be kind and gentle with ourselves, remember you are not alone in your suffering. When you mentioned Scapegoating, your head would spin if I told you how I have well and truly been thrown under the bus, but your post today has helped me, it has reinforced the reality that the only person now I can help is myself, Like you I will always love my ED unconditionally , I think as mums it's in our DNA, we don't get the choice, it just is and we have to find a way to live with it. I don't hold my breath about my ED every seeing or speaking to me again as I believe she has been brainwashed by adults for their own reasons had a vested interest in portraying me in a very negative way to her, so like you , each day I feel as though I am grieving for child that has died and like you she is very much alive, I wish for you peace of mind and a way through this difficult lonely path we have found ourselves having to navigate. Take care, Autumn.
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