Parents of estranged children Community Group
For parents who have lost communication with their children. Join us to discuss your situation, feelings, and offer advice and support to each other.
autumnwind
I am new to this site, but remember my daughter telling me she visits it. My daughter married a (narcissist ) and over the coarse of a few years he has managed to turn her against the family. He has gone as far as to try and get restraining orders, which he had no reason to so was unable to get. He has blocked our phone numbers, return our mail. He also stated he would call the police if we visited, and they will be moving soon and will not tell us where they are moving to. The pain is unmerciful. My daughter was raised in a home where she was the center of our lives. No one could have been love more. Somehow that is why I blame myself, because I couldn't stand up to her when she so disrespected us and it was daily abuse. Now she is married and moved away to another state and has a 2 year old daughter. She has been married for 6 years now and it has been a struggle keeping any communication going, now we have none. When she was talking with me, she would talk about her husband and how mentally abusive he was over and over. I tried to talk with her about it but of course she would say what I said to him. I eventually learned to say nothing. This has been years. My daughter is totally brainwashed now by her husband and does what he says, she is a prisoner in her own home. Her mind is so destroyed, I cant reach her. So now of a few days ago, we are totally cut off. Her husband wrote a letter to my husband and titled it "Your dead to us", If anyone knows about narcissistic personalities you know what we are dealing with. I have contacted a attorney, just in case we ever need one. I live in fear for my daughter. Her husband threatens her with taking her child from her if she leaves. She will not contact us either, because of him, we are totally cut off and lost. I am a spiritual person, and being tested now. I do pray and try to feel my mind with other things, but my mind keeps coming back. My husband and I just cry and wonder what happened and how this could have happened. We blame ourselves for moving back to Texas, where she met him immediately. Now we live in Texas and he moved them to Wisconsin. There is so much more, but I just have to open up some and put it out there. I am afraid I cant go on, without talking with my daughter. It is so hard. Please pray
deleted_user
so sorry to hear this. I can relate because I have a narcissistic daughter and she has also linked up with a man who has managed to cut us off, along with my ex husband who has been playing the "divorced victim" for years. I would like to read some literature on how to cope if you can recommend any books or websites. you will be in my prayers.
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