Hi. I'm new here and this topic has probably been covered but I don't seem to be finding it. I left a 25 year marriage this past July due to over a decade of emotional abuse that finally led to physical abuse. My children love their father and cannot fathom that this is true. I respect that, nor due I care to speak about their dad in a bad light. However, he has gone out of his way to discredit me with every accusation imaginable. Two of my grown children are furious with me and have decided not to speak to me. This is all new and I am coming to terms with the fact I cannot control their choices, misinformed or not. I am, however, not sure how to handle Christmas. I have one son who is still speaking to me and asked me to send him Christmas stockings;) (old family tradition and he lives about 22 hours away). But what should I do with the ones who have asked for space? Do I send a card with a gift-card, the traditional stocking giving seems inappropriate at the moment, do I purchase something generic and just mail it? I am open to suggestions here. Guess what I am asking is..what is the protocol for gift-giving at Christmas to newly estranged young adults?