I finally looked up a group for parents of estranged children! When I lost communication with my oldest son that was bad enough but now there are 2 that don't speak to me!! Normal questions about what did I do? I think the more I try to find answers to this the more I hurt. If my sister asks how things are with them it hurts so I finally told her please don't ask. Would I like to reconcile with them? Of course, but it has gone on for so long I have no idea how to reach them. I hear through the grapevine from my daughter about them but it is not the same and forget the holidays. It is gut wrenching when my mind goes over their childhood and what I could have done better. I will continue watching this site to try and help and be helped. Sometimes it could just be to say: I am thinking of you and know how bad it is.