Parents of estranged children Community Group
For parents who have lost communication with their children. Join us to discuss your situation, feelings, and offer advice and support to each other.
I finally looked up a group for parents of estranged children! When I lost communication with my oldest son that was bad enough but now there are 2 that don't speak to me!! Normal questions about what did I do? I think the more I try to find answers to this the more I hurt. If my sister asks how things are with them it hurts so I finally told her please don't ask. Would I like to reconcile with them? Of course, but it has gone on for so long I have no idea how to reach them. I hear through the grapevine from my daughter about them but it is not the same and forget the holidays. It is gut wrenching when my mind goes over their childhood and what I could have done better. I will continue watching this site to try and help and be helped. Sometimes it could just be to say: I am thinking of you and know how bad it is.
The largest wound you can have is the wound of separation, the trauma of losing love.
This is the primal black hole. It breaks you off from peace and joy.
Those experiencing it will have no energy to cope with life, even in the most basic ways.
This black hole within them undermines all optimism & meaning.
There is a floating sense of dread that drains the vitality of existence.
This is the condition known as despair.
The greatest joy & happiness we have in our lives comes from our relationships with those we love. Those of us experiencing the rejection and estrangement from our children know how devastating the pain can be. The term "move on" does not apply as our very hearts are forever identified with our child.
Were forced to endure extreme unendurable pain day after day. Going back and forth from pain to anger to pain again, You have feelings of abject hopelessness, you either cant eat, or eat to much. The same goes for sleep. You are constantly thinking of them, recalling memories, & instead of the memories bringing you peace they bring you great pain, you cry inconsolably.
As a result you isolate your self from others and no longer trust those you love to ever be there for you .
Yes, There are others going through the same thing. I also am estranged by my two adult children. I can relate to everything you said, Specially the holidays and hearing of them from others. What helps me is to know when I come here that I am not alone. I will pray for you. Thank you for sharing your feelings. Don't give up. "weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning"